Someone just asked the opposite of this question here and I was wondering if there are cases were you’re just not interested in something but you know the community is great nonetheless.
For me it’s Metal music. It’s just absolutely not my genre but an overwhelming amount of metalheads I met were just the nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around.
We trash and bash in the mosh pitts, and get out our aggression. But if someone falls, you YANK them up. Many times I’ve fallen, and then suddenly felt myself lifted high into the air by the hand of god. Then I can see who lifted me, and it turns out it wasn’t god. It was a long haired, bearded, tattood muscleman. Which makes sense. I’m like 300lbs. If you’re suddenly yanking me up effortlessly, you’re a big muscle man. And then there’s other times I see women fall. I yank them up. I’m doing the right thing, I KNOW I’m doing the right thing, but the whole time I’m just like “Sorry sorry sorry sorry.” because you don’t aim where you grab. You grab and yank up, by whatever you can. You don’t want the pitt to come her way and stomp her head, not knowing she exists down there. So yank, but also “Sorry sorry sorry sorry”. I’ve yet to have any women mad at me for doing it, they get it, but MAN it feels weird just grabbing a woman like that.
Pushing, shoving, looks like a massive fist fight but it’s all love. We’re trusting them with our life. They’re trusting us with theirs. We all get super violent, and have a good time. Then the show lets out, and we’re like “Oh, you wanna go get some late night eats? Anyone know a good gyro spot?”, and we’re just friendly for the rest of the day. We’re like the Canadians of music genres. Violent when we play, and friendly the rest of the time.
Funny. For me mosh pitts don’t have association with metal. I married an ozzy fan though.
There is research and papers showing that heavy music in general can actually be therapeutic and make someone calmer, rather than the perceived opposite effect. It can be a great outlet. I listen to metal, heavy music, all the time but when I have used it as a coping mechanism, i.e. an outlet for stress, it has definitely allowed me to release such tension. Not only that, but singing/screaming to vocals along to the music surely does release all of energy, and while there are outsiders who might perceive the music as ‘angry’ the incorrect connection they’re making is that anger is an energetic emotion, as in unreleased energy/tension. Metal isn’t angry music, it is energetic. That is why it makes such good workout music. It stimulates and satisfies that part of our lives, letting us be some of the ‘nicest, most wholesome and fun people all around’.
You’re all in it together. That’s just the whole vibe
And I’ve always loved that mostly the lyrics are not like a lot of music that is just… I love you, I stalk you, I am nothing without you … Puke
I’d believe the research on a heartbeat. I don’t listen to metal very often and I’m pretty picky about subgenres, but when I’m in a horrible terrible mood, I’ll slap on some of the hardest most pig squealing, swallowing the microphone, quadruple bass pedal stuff I can find. After an hour or so of that, I usually feel much better.
Metal Heads will absolutely be your best friends in time of need. Need help moving a body, no questions asked? Call your metal friend.
That’s funny. That was the first thing that popped in my head. I don’t know how to pronounce any of your favorite Scandinavian bands’ names, but I think we’ll get along just fine.
Lesbians. Hate that they aren’t into me, but damnit I get it.
They also have more in common with you than any gay person ever will.
Huh??? But we are a subset of gay people???
I think they mean gay as in gay men. A lot of people see gay as strictly masculine and lesbian as strictly feminine.
Which is ironic cause it should kinda be the other way around depending on your point of reference
I’ll be honest with you I don’t even know what I was trying to say originally I just wanted to make that masculine/feminine joke
Not really but that would be hilarious
I’m gay
Furries are cool people
and the backbone of modern societyThis. To be clear I have absolutely no problem with furries existing and I believe anything less than letting y’all be would be tantamount to treason.
But God damn I just cannot understand it. I don’t get it. And it weirds me out.
Like I said, I would actually fight to defend your right to wear your fur suit out in public. But I’m also going to make fun of you because man it’s just weird.
Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn’t actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don’t do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.
Although I did have a coworker (I work in IT so this isn’t actually that surprising) who was a furry and he tried to meow at me one time when I called his name. Don’t do that. That was weird. Just tell me what you did to fix the computer man.
He did. What you don’t understand is that meowing at the problem is often the solution. If meowing doesn’t work, try barking.
I was never into furry stuff, but I hung out with an online furry community way back in 2006. Furries are cool. Furryism is just not for me.
Same, lots of great people and a nice community. As a whole, they’re very accepting folks too and have no problems with the respectful non-furs.
I like furries because I appreciate modern technology. If all the furries went to lunch at the same time, we’d be eating each other in the streets before they made it to the diner.
I am not a fan of the hardcore heavy/death metal music itself; but the metalheads are awesome people. The more unintelligible and scary/evil sounding the music, the nicer the crowd. It’s weird and cool and funny.
Metalheads. The nicest people in the world cosplaying as the toughest.
Yes I meet tons of people going to metal shows! They’re all very nice
And there’s science backing that up!
Not particularly into guys, but I love women who are into them.
No, not really. Do you need a diagram and flowchart? 😁
(Come to think of it: An awesome use case for gen AI would be a bot that generates memes and weird images on demand)
Books. I’m dyslexic as fuck but heavy readers are mostly chill people.
Did you ever get into audio books? It’s nice to have someone else read to you at bedtime or during a commute.
Ooohh ooh audio books are my bag baby yeah.
Podcasts too.
It’s all about timbre and accent. I could listen to the right voice read the phone book.
See, I have ebooks I want in audio, so I have to settle for ‘robot’ android voice when there is no ‘audiobook option’
Any good podcast recs? Any genre/subject is fine.
Ancient civilisations. Noiser network. Paul McGann is the Narrator.
I have always been a liberal leftist but I actually really enjoy being around old school, fiscally conservative Republicans, when they aren’t talking about politics. They tend to be softies on the inside - they value strength and tradition and care deeply for their communities and families; often more directly demonstrating that care than liberals tend to. They also don’t accept the victim mentality and tend to shoot straight with their words, and can be hilariously harsh. They are responsible and tend to follow through with their commitments.
The problem is, I can’t really stand being around them because they can’t help themselves bringing up the dumbest opinions of all time and they typically don’t like digging into fact based thinking.
Same now as 20 years ago, when they would say shit like, “pretty cold out today - don’t seem like global warming to me! Hahaha” etc etc
Something about the horseshoe effect I’m sure. I’m the same way, I make the best of friends with conservative assholes. They care about family, water is thicker than blood, blah blah blah. It’s just the policies they vote for that I hate, which is also why I love just chatting about them. Gives me an opportunity to “know thy enemy” and have a chance to change their mind
Smokers. They have decades of being able to strike up an angry conversation in a street with an absolute stranger, whilst never letting it escalate, because, fuckit, brotherhood of smokers.
Plus a healthy appreciation of nature. Sure you can smoke and look at your phone, but you still have to be outside and that means glancing up from time to time to look at the scenery, the night sky, to wave at your neighbours, etc.
Good people smokers, filthy habit.
(Vapers dont count, cos you can’t really share a vape concurrently. Also a lot of them take pride in their devices which I find weird. Real smokers have a decent sense of self-hatred at their habit)
Not sure what kind of smokers you meet. The ones I have to deal with blow cancer in my face right next to children, get aggressive when I ask them not to, spit on the floor every 5s, throw their still lit cigs into trash bins or into nature and cant stop coughing on the train.
Those are just assholes who happen to smoke
There’s some in every crowd.
yeah and I have to say even nice smokers seem to have no issue with flicking their but when they are done. Anytime I see a smoker hold onto their but when there is not some sort of enforcement I am like. That person is the rare saint.
Ah yep, my people. The good ones can cast an indignant parent/kid-free zone up to 15m away. Solitary creatures by nature, they hunt in packs, and if you manage to friend one, you friend them for life.
Fuck yeah, I miss it. Smokers are my people. Risk takers, nihilists, indulgers, hedonists, adventurers, rebels, fun-havers… but I’ve gotten domesticated and want to live a long and clean life. Sigh.
Same, but it’s not really living is it
Clement Freud said “You don’t live longer, it only seems longer.”
It is and it isn’t. My current goals and priorities require as long of a horizon to accomplish them and as much focus as possible. Or do they? if I got back into the risky overdrive mode and accelerated full speed and full joy all at once…
Burn, Burn, Burn by Ronnie Elliott is now stuck in my head.
I miss smoking so much. It really is an awesome habit. Or would be if not for the cancer, COPD, and financial ruin.
Old school vapers at least, ones that still roll their own coils and rewick their rebuildable atomizers, would almost always have a device that they have customized themselves, or gotten a very beautiful custom mod.
Also vaping is a bit different in that you could vape using a device akin to smoking, or you could be vaping up a storm cloud like a shisha or bing would, or anything in between.
It’s a personal thing. At least in the opinion if this vaper.
Oh yeah the vaping crowd is definitely creative, but they don’t share with strangers cos they physically can’t
One that’s less relevant now, but throughout my life has been relevant: Juggalos.
I was a big metalhead in school, and i had a bunch of juggalo friends. I liked a couple of their songs well enough, but I found the “culture” grating. Still, those mothafuckas were the most accepting and tolerant people I knew. Tolerant of anyone’s way of life, except they fucking hated bigots. In the 90s, being accepting of queer peeps really wasn’t in vogue (to put it lightly) but juggalos welcomed queer peeps as friends with open arms.
Lol same. Juggalos are just awesome and wholesome. The music is soooooo bad tho.
Hahaha yeeee bad… but sometimes very funny. “Fuckin magnets” is timeless
Alright. I looked up what you’re talking about. I believe your referencing the song Miracles. Which is wholesome AF and an absolute banger. 10/10. No notes
Pineapple on pizza. You’re wrong and I wanna fight you but we can still be friends and have a good time over drinks.
No I am not wrong. And I can raise you with pineapple on burger.
Grilled pineapple on a burger.
This is gonna be just like my buddy at my old job where it became an office-wide (joke) rift and everybody took sides and anytime someone new joined we’d ask them which side they were on and there was much hemming and hawing on Slack.
My wife is a huge Rush fan. I’ve been to two concerts, I don’t get it. It’s loud, it’s screechy, I can’t understand the lyrics, but they’re her favorite band.
Bought her the “Rush 50” set for our anniversary next month:
https://www.rushbackstage.com/product/6XAMRU303/r50-backstage-exclusive-super-deluxe-edition
She tolerates my taste:
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_nU_JDbqfgfN7-xDYOi2lzyoC9cjh7ajq4
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_liRnR3E2H7SpBrYXT-3CJye3snP3P3w5g
I worked with some people from Chile once, and they ALL loved rush. there was like 30 of them, they had in common where they came from, and rush. Like it’s a thing. Even the ones whose English was so-so knew every word to every song. I miss jamming with em. Fucking epic air drums!
I went to a concert with a mega fan and also don’t get it, that shit hurt my ears. I think Rush fans brains are all wired at some unique frequency.
Yeah, I learned after the first one to take earplugs. Not that it matters now since we lost Neil Peart (the drummer). :( No more concerts.
Grand strategy games aren’t for me, but I love reading the insane stories from CKII and Dwarf Fortress.
CK2 and DF aren’t grand strategy games, they’re story generators.
Boardgaming. I play an occasional boardgame with my friends, but I’m not searching youtube clips for strategies, importing first-print Euro games in the original German and printing English-language stickers for the boards, or watching Essen livestreams every year.
Metal and punk music, not my style but def my scene
Skateboarding/ bmx/ rollerblades / scooters- have a fucked up knee so I don’t like to anymore but I love the energy the crowd brings
Street racing- car scene is dying and wifey doesn’t let me any more 🙃
Graffiti art- I’m just bad at it
Furries - not my thing but they’re fun folks
Larping / roleplay/ dnd - same
I don’t like to dress in a slutty outfit and go out in the public
