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Iām a bisexual gen-x man. For my entire single life I was told that I was just gay and āhadnāt come to termsā with it. Even after marrying a woman, my wife still got shit about how one day Iād realize I am gay and leave.
I never understood the need to label or pigeonhole everything. Maybe we, all of us, are just people who love. Who we love should be nobodyās business.
My interpretation of the meme here is that the cat uses gay as an umbrella term similar to queer a lot. Iām sorry about all the shitty biphobia youāve gone through, though :(
my sexuality is āi want to bang sexy peopleā
yeah, straight and gay are such restrictive concepts, i have trouble imagining that anyone actually fits them for any other reason than social pressure.
especially with gender liberation and people looking however they want, gender based atraction is such a weird conceptā¦
Iām an xennial demi woman and we didnāt even have the term ādemisexualā when you and I were young. Trying to explain to my bigoted mother that Iām not attracted to a meat suit, and canāt define what Iām attracted to, while having a girlfriend wasā¦ awful!
Is the milkshake saying this?
the author accidentally flipped the speech bubble
this is what it is supposed to look like
When you drink a whole bi milkshake, it becomes a bye milkshake.
Now we know why the milkshake brings all the boys (and girls and enbies) to the yard
Hereās the wildest part, I prefer women.
I think itās just because my last long-time partner was a man, so a lot of my current friend-group has only ever known me in a homosexual relationship. Also, a lot of my friends are gay, so itās easier to be āone of the gays.ā Gonna be real weird to be called gay when Iām in a technically het relationship.
I donāt know if youāve experienced this (or are this age) but my kids are gen-Z, and they use āgayā and āqueerā (mostly) interchangeably. One of my kids who is gay constantly refers to me as āgayā because Iām bi. One of their friends who is a lesbian also uses gay, so itās been quite a learning experience for me.
Yeah, my friendgroup does the same. It doesnāt really bother me that much, just very silly to think about. Iād rather be included in the LGBT community than excluded, even if bi-erasure is a pretty serious issue. I used to really care about the meaning of words, but now that we live in a post-meaning world, I mostly just care about the intent. Nobody ever means me ill will when they refer to me as gay, so itās w/e.
even if bi-erasure is a pretty serious issue.
Yeah Iāve been bi(sexual) since the 90ās when it was, uh, āfrowned uponā, but I came out as bi-romantic last year. The erasure is absolutely real and brutal. I was talking with a guy (who was gay) and when I said I was bi he sighed aloud and then just walked away. The vast majority of people are much better about it, though I have not had a great experience once I came out as enby. Random women have come up and āneggedā my hair/clothing/etc, men on the other hand get annoyed when they mistake me for a woman.
I mostly just care about the intent. Nobody ever means me ill will when they refer to me as gay, so itās w/e.
Iām not trying to tell you what to do, but you might want to say to them āhey so I love being included, and it feels somewhat erasing to beā¦ā. I find that the vast majority of the time that goes over well and people go with it.
I do this constantly, probably due to gay still being used as an umbrella term for anything queer
Itās too good a word.
Stop calling me out OP
^^^ Bisexual cat
this but straight instead of gay, i donāt care about gender but man there arenāt a lot of cute guys around here, theyāre all either masculine or theyāre douchebros who think logan paul isnāt a despicable asshatā¦
where tf are the twinks?
Iām none of the people you describe, but Iām not a twink (yetā¢). Can we still hold hands? š„ŗš„ŗ
what the fuck? no, thatās lewd, you disgusting pervert!
ā¦would you wear a collar and a skirt?
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ššbut more seriously, and apologies for the wall of text and being a bit personal:
This is something that drives me up the wall, idk if iām just poisoned by heteronormativity but iām sooo sensitive to masculinity, if my lizard brain detects too much masculinity and not enough femininity it just vetoes things entirely and slaps me across the face for daring to traumatize it so.
But at the same time i really find the concept of someone with a dick appealing! And i even like the absence of either masculinity or femininity as well!
Itās kind of maddening. I think the 2 main things that prevents the instinctive rejection is absence of body hair and having both muscle and a lot of body fat, because somehow big buff hairless gym guys are just kind of neutral to me, i donāt particularly want to snog them but i also donāt find them gross in a sexual context.TL:DR: iād hope so but i couldnāt make any promises š
heuristically? why not? (maybe this one here does it also)
I say Iām gay a lot for someone who is technically asexual
Seems like splitting hairs, I get it.
Looks like a cat-sexual to me.
