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  • Mate I found myself nodding and going “oh yeah” out loud reading your comment. You’re right it’s impractical, causes resentment and damages the relationship. Men like that see themselves as victim because they see nothing wrong in their behavior so why would she be screaming at him about it? It’s hard to see how men like this can see racism and homophobia/transphobia in other people’s actions (or at least respect group members that point it out) but are oblivious to misogyny.

    That guys attitudes are scary, I’m sorry you had to hear it. I wish I could say its incredibly rare, but those attitudes aren’t.



















  • Many years ago I was withy ex and he was “one of the good ones”. Really nice man, and a good person. But he just did NOT do his fair share of things. His dad did nothing and mum did it all, so although he denied it, he expected the same.

    He had to be screamed at repeatedly to do anything. He’d forget tasks because he made no effort whatsoever to try to remember them, and would NEVER put it right when he forgot. I would often literally sob and plead, saying how hurtful it was that he saw me as a servant. He just wouldn’t do it.

    I’ve never been able to fathom how so many men just sit and watch their partners doing it all. I just can’t fathom treating a partner like that.