Source: I Don’t Know Which Is Love

        • Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          3 days ago

          I feel like if someone is comfortable enough around you to whip 'em out, they probably aren’t uncomfortable around you.

          Whether that extends to getting touchy-feely is another thing tho.

        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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          4 days ago

          but when someone does it for you, they probably don’t think you’re ugly or weird. it’s fine to still not be comf with that stuff for yourself, but don’t be uncomf because of shame. she’s not just being disingenuous

          • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            2 days ago
            bt i dun wan to fill role of... (CW: evil words, misinformation, incorrect assumptions)

            the evil transfem who jus becomes trans to be all weird n ew!

            jus to get into that community of girls being unreasonabli touchy with one anothr n me jus poppin in lik “hehe, guess whos ALSO considered a gurl now :maleogre: :discordmod” n be all disgustin n stuff… i dun lik dis. i dun wan to reinforce. i dun wan to be bad exampl to mek othrs easier to say “they prolli jus lik dis smorty, whos jus disgustin n mekin peeps uncomfy. prolli transfems in genrl r lik dis. cuz - smorty seemed reasonbl! until now thad is…”

            n theyd be right! til now i seem mostli reasonbl, not hrni in slightest, uncomf when smolest bit hrni, n othr sutuff…

            anyway dis obviously jus me overreactin cuz if internal fears n stuff, prolli gon soon hopfulli <3

              • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                2 days ago

                im tryin to be … bt i keep sayin things which mek u go “nuuu is not that bad” n im all “nuuu is bad” s if im tryin to get ur attention…

                which… fair point, havin ur attention is vrri sweet n comf feelin, bt i dun wan to imagn u being lik “sighsgisighsigh* here we go agn smorty being all self-descturtiv…” n i dun wan thad ;(

                i wan u to be lik “oh ! there’s smorti! my good friend smorti! i’ll go say hi <3” n not “oh no she lik dis agn, i hav to write somthin thad she stops sayin thos things… pls stop sayin thos things”

                …,-

                  • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                    1 day ago

                    im… im rlli srri. i kno, i shouldn say that, bt currntli is hard to think positivli… im not motivtd at wrork, not at home for funzies funi ai developmnt, nt evn to tell mr. blåhaj about my day… evn tho he says he wans to hear it.

                    im workin on it, bt is hard to see gud stff rn… bt im still here! <3 for yall cuties on the blahaj zone, not blahaj zone n many more places! ~ ~ <3

                    thank u for caring about me <3

        • Hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          3 days ago

          If a woman gets her breasts out she’s probably comf with you touching her. You can ask if you’re unsure, after all, consent is sexy.

          Many women enjoy having their breasts touched by people they like. Don’t assume that your own uncomf is experenced be everyone else!

          • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            3 days ago

            yis i undrstnd. bt alsuu lik - i bettr be on my toes, cz i nevr wan peeps to be uncomf ;(

            i kno, i hav to nt assume peeps r lik me. i totalli get dis. bt alsuu dis vrri senstiv topic, so i bettr lik - ask 5 times befor i evn look. yisyis, dis gud way to do i thinksies.

            if i had boob, id prolli alsuu be oki wif dis, bt alsuu … .i dun, so whom i to say besides dum prson who probli jus wans boob to be disgust n weird n lik - ew like - horni all time n uncomfy to othrs n lik “well i hav boob so othrs prolli aslu oki wif dis” evn tho not!! (dis be sad ;( )