Yeah, I think you are. Good that you see it yourself.

Just me not catching my phone autocorrecting cars to Cara for some reason. I’ll fix it, 2 sec.

The mere thought of my boyfriend having to bike 90km to work on the highway is equal parts funny and terrifying, lol.

You got it from both sides, you poor thing haha.

I think it is so funny that people seem to forget that Gen X set the stage for internet culture when most millennials were teens and preteens.

Absolutely love that millennials are once again taking all the blame for actions that the whiny generation also partook in and indeed cultivated with glee before behavioral regulations online became a thing. When that happened, millennials were also being blamed for being too soft.

We rarely eat red meat in our household, but we do have a car. They fucked our local public transportation system so badly we ended up not having a choice 🤷‍♀️

Just came from another discussion about cars killing the same number of people as guns do in Chicago, so by that logic: cars are good for the environment too.

Throwing insults is not a discussion, by the way.

denying that fear is exactly the kind of car-induced sociopathy that I’m talking about.

Lol.

Claiming that people driving cars are sociopathic is a bizarre claim. Claiming that cars are worse than the concept of a mass shooting is insane. I reiterate: I hope you never find yourself in a mass shooting. Seeing a car drive by on the road cannot make you remotely as scared as being trapped in a building, knowing someone is shooting, but not knowing where they are, how many there are nor how close they are to getting you or your loved ones.

You cannot compare driving cars in a city to that. That is insane.

I do not understand your mindset, but I very much do hope you will never know what it is like to be trapped in a mass shooting.

You are definitely speaking form a position of privilege.

Usually, people don’t get behind the wheel with the intent to kill. We can always discuss the ramifications of drunk driving, speeding and other reckless behaviors that some drivers exhibit when they put the lives of others in danger. It is a discussion that is worth having and it is very important.

However, you cannot tell me that carrying a gun around and waving it in someone’s face is anything other than an attempt to threaten a life. Guns were built explicitly to kill. That is their only purpose. That is why people mostly focus on gun violence. There is intent behind the deaths of every person involved in a shooting while with car crashes, it is rarely the driver’s intent to murder anybody.

It doesn’t mean that car crashes don’t matter and don’t deserve attention, but you comparing the two as if they are the same is frankly ignorant and smells of gun apologist.

I mean, you can just buy dvds. They are cheap af. If you know where to look you can also find bluray discs for cheap. My boyfriend and I sometimes go to websites for used dvds and blurays and they don’t cost 30 to 40 euros there.

You can also go to the library and borrow dvd and bluray movies. It’s free and you can discover some films you would have otherwise never seen. I do that a lot and my boyfriend and I enjoy this setup. It is a lot cheaper and nicer than having subscriptions to two or three shitty streaming services that are filled with trash and none of them have the movies we want to watch. Fuck that shit. Physical media all the way. It is so easy and cheap to go back to physical if you really want it. It is probably cheaper than subscribing to services where you basically pay for air and own nothing.

Say no more, my friend. I’m the same xD I have some messages I need to reply to that I just can’t and sometimes it takes days to answer, other times months (embarrassing) and yet other times I can reply immediately. So I completely get it haha.

Aw man, I’m sorry to hear that! It really is a hit or miss when it comes to people’s experiences getting diagnosed. I have also met people where it was relatively easy for them to get through the eye of the needle and I’m low key envious of them haha.

There probably is something to it if both your sibs have it as well! And yeah, when I was a kid, ADHD basically didn’t exist and was called something else (DAMP) and it was only a diagnosis given to very disruptive boys. I think the first time I head about ADHD was when I wad like 19 or 20 and back then the understanding of it was that it’s what happens when rowdy boys get too much sugar so they need medicine to make them quiet.

I didn’t really know about how ADHD typically presents in women and girls until a year and a half ago when my spouse told me that he thinks I have it, so yeah.

In that sense I really feel you with having been too old to be caught early and taken seriously and such.

I hope that, if you seek a diagnosis again, you will have better luck with the professionals assessing you. I have heard that there are good and kind people out there who want to help, so if one has the energy, time and money to look for a good egg, then it is probably worth it for peace of mind!

Have also heard about the whole meds thing that that is why they don’t want to diagnose adults. The few times I have talked with people about it irl they also immediately bring up the meds as if that is my motivation, but it really isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, if it turned out that there was a pill that could help me with some of my issues, I would most likely want to take it, but for me, the main motivation was always to have proof that I’m not just making things up. That I’m not crazy or making excuses. Its always been an issue of mine that I feel like I have to justify my feelings and experiences and I automatically assume no one ever believes me, so having paper proof that it is real is something I really wanted.

And people always go “then what next?” And I’m always like: then I’ll go back to my life? What else?

People always thinks it’s the meds, but for me at least it’s the peace of mind.

That’s valid, my friend!

I dunno if I find the meme to be promoting acceptance of that type of behavior tbh. There may be some people out there who will use it to excuse bad behavior and never try to improve. I see memes like this as funny commentary on symptoms that are pretty annoying, but not much else.

It’d be different if it was a meme that basically said that trying to change and improve is futile and one might as well give up or something like that. I wouldn’t agree with that. One always have to try, but it is okay to remember that some things will probably never be easy and that isn’t really your fault if you try your best and still fail sometimes.

I know a disproportionate amount of ADHDers in my personal life and most of them keep trying and they do their best. Some function really well while others struggle a bit more. I only really know one ADHDer who refuses to take responsibility for himself and constantly blames everybody else for his predicaments. Needless to say, most people don’t like this guy and he isn’t really getting anywhere in life because of his attitude. ADHDers like him would look at any ADHD meme and use it to confirm their own victimhood and continue to make it other people’s problems that they are like this.

Meanwhile most others will look at these meme and go “lol, I do do that, but I’m working on it” in some shape or form.

I know you’re kind of joking, but the story was written during a time where girls would often be married off to older men they didn’t know and the story was meant as a comfort/encouragement to these young girls that he may be ugly and old and not really what you dreamed of, but maybe he turns out to be an actually kind person who can give you a good life and you can learn to love him despite his looks.

I think the worst part is that even if you do all you can to avoid these things, they may still happen anyway.

The so-called ADHD tax is not something I am personally super affected by because I am usually too paranoid about bankruptcy to spend on much of anything outside of food, bills and necessities.

However things still happen where I lose money because I am the way that I am. There was a period where I became very into eating cucumbers and I would buy one everytime I was at the store until I realized we had six whole cucumbers in the fridge and some of them were going bad.

Things like that happen even though I hate spending money. Even if I don’t mean to. They still happen.

The area where I struggle the absolute most is when it comes to structure and routine. You wouldn’t believe how many systems I have tried, how strict I have been about them and how every single one of them have collapsed into rubble after a few months. I yearn for structure, routine and stability, but I can’t fucking do it without help. I just can’t. It is so much effort to build a house of cards and then life happens, like a gust of wind and I have to start from scratch. Every. Single. Time. You can’t put the world on pause to have your feeble attempt at stability survive for longer. Shit happens. Sickness, weekends, vacations, family visits and so on. They happen and they will fuck up every attempt at structure I have every single time. My life is the closest to structured when I live the same day over and over and cut out all enjoyment and spontaneity, but that’s not how life works. It took me many years to accept this. I just have to build my house of cards all the time and I have to accept that it will collapse all the time.

I imagine that those who really struggle with the ADHD tax are in similar positions. If the tax is to them what the inability to keep structure is to me, then I feel pretty bad for them. Especially if they’re being told to “just do it and stop making excuses”.

I have several things that interested me and became popular, but I didn’t hate on the new fans. At most I sometimes missed the feeling of having this thing that was a bit obscure and in case of channels on youtube, the intimacy of interacting with the creator and other subscribers was nice. But I can’t hate on something I like becoming popular.

As for concrete examples, I do remember subbing to this small gaming channel with 9000 subs called Markiplier back in the day.

I subbed to OKI Weird Stories when he had like 600ish subs.

I subbed to Creepcast before it had any videos on it, but that one is cheating since both meatcanyon and wendigoon were already very popular. Still, it’s been a bit nuts seeing the podcast explode in popularity. I even know people irl who listen to it.

Currently I follow a small channel, also podcast format, called The Daydream Arcade that focuses on reading reddit stories, but the hosts are two friends, who bring some warmth and personality to the format which is nice. For me, I stick around becuase I really like their friendship and their personalities. I’m also a older than the both of them and feel a bit big-sister-protective of them. I want them to grow and I believe they will because they already have 4500 subs compared to the 900 they had when I found them, but also don’t like the thought of them reaching a point of popularity where the mean assholes come crawling to tear them down.

When I heard about this case back in the day, all I could think about was that scene in the Mr Bean movie where he fucks up the painting of the old lady and tries to fix it.

That’s totally fair. I’m not a native English speaker myself, but some of the English I have learned has been through corrections from friendly souls around the internet so I wanted to pay it forward. I’m not judging or attacking you as I don’t expect anyone to be perfect in any language. Not even their own. Just wanted to help out 🤗

I feel like a tourist on a safari trip with this whole saga. A colleague of mine told me about this situation and now I can’t look away.

When all is said and done, I definitely think it would be a good idea to have game libraries both physical and digital where people can play old games as they stop being profitable to developers.

I have vague memory of there already being such consumer made game libraries for old Gameboy titles back in the 2000s but those sites were taken down. It would be great to have some sort of system in place because this licensing bullshit is exactly why I ended up completely leaving streaming as a whole (for movies and shows) and went back to physical media in january/February of this year. I borrow dvds at the library now. It is fucking fantastic. I had forgotten how much I missed going looking for movies I’d like to see in places like Moby Disc and Blockbuster. It’s so comfy and when you find a movie you’ve never heard of before and you bring it home and it’s really good, it just feels so special.

I think games should have that too. I stopped playing games in 2015 because I just saw no end to having to fork out money all the time to keep up with the tech and getting new titles and gradually seeing how it was more and more an online thing instead of a physical thing so I just stopped. Didn’t like the direction games were taking. Seems like it is reaching a breaking point finally.

Libraries are so important for culture.