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Cake day: June 25th, 2025

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  • My storage doesn’t randomly disconnect, but frequently (and randomly) when I open saved files, three to six other files open alongside it for whatever reason and that can get a bit overwhelming and for sure bogs everything down.

    Very helpful for making diverse connections between the files (how my OS knows which files are related is beyond my comprehension), but way too much for daily use.




  • I still have a mortgage, but I don’t have car payments and my bills have been steady for years.

    I have never been stable by any historically recent metric, yet I can easily survive on $750/mth usd living in the US. Sure, a depressed area, but I can make it work.

    I’ve never been stable so I learned to live on very little, and make up for it where I can. I won’t ever have money for travel, but historically nobody did. We are spoiled as fuck to think international vacations are a baseline necessity to call life good.

    It’s not easy in today’s world but it is totally doable, if you don’t give a fuck about keeping up with people around you, and focus on what makes your life good.




  • As a fellow autist, but also a cis woman person, I think there’s a genuine and clear difference between the two, but… I viscerally understand infodumps when the other person already knows…

    You gas yourself up so much to share the thing and they are like… mmhmm. Deflation city. And it’s hard to stop yourself from sharing your own personal understanding of things with people, even if they can correct you, which you hope they will do if you are wrong, omg that would be amazing!

    That contrasts so hard with the condescending “I know more than you” attitude. Because the things those dipshits pick to harp on are usually the more superficial aspects of the thing.

    Like that’s nice, I’m glad you know the specific term for the thing, genuinely, now let’s proceed from our mutual understanding and iron out the details together!

    But that’s really different from someone who talks over you, is wrong, won’t be proven wrong, don’t care or know all that much (like dunning kruger sort of thing)









  • 2 that I know of, but that’s the majority of my social circle (not working, no family). The other people I don’t think would want to because it’s different and difficult and those are “leave everything at default” sort of people when it comes to tech, so lost cause anyway.

    Both the people who do use it are there because of me, though!

    My partner and I were struggling when I was android and they were iOS, there was delays that threw everything out of order, so we tried a few messaging apps that worked cross platform and I found signal and we started using it together, and my friend started using it when dating a new person because e2ee for naughty photos and stuff, at my suggestion. They were using Snapchat and I was like ummmm… no. Don’t do that. But we use it to talk all the time now.


  • The good news is with all the small plastic bits floating around the environment, it’s only a matter of time until something evolves to decompose it. Tons and tons of surface area in a wide variety of environments and exposed to a wide variety of microorganisms. I mean heck even our anaerobic gut microbes are getting a chance! And plastic is basically just energy in solid form, so it’ll happen sooner or later.

    The bad news is if that happens while we still use plastics, we are going to have a bad time with it.

    We probably won’t even know it’s happening until it’s spread far and wide.


  • Personally, as a child-free person, if someone I was interested in wanted bio kids, I’d immediately stop being interested because that’s not something you can compromise on. It’s a fundamental incompatibility, imho.

    It sounds like you aren’t really hurting for options, so, you know… probably not worth the effort.


  • Ah, see my toilets are always covered, my cats are indoor-only, and I haven’t had a dog in decades, so I don’t have weather worries except for my chicken friends (USDA hardiness zone 4, whooo we can’t do shit!) and whatever else.

    And I don’t have the finances to marine a tank lol that shit is wildly expensive, and intensive, and I’m lazy as sin lol so freshwater plant water cubes are what I keep mostly. I have a 55 gal in the kitchen with like 5 live bearing small fish… I’m not a fish person, I’m a “box of water with some plants in” sort of person :)

    Fwiw tho my USDA zone 4 has been getting monsoon rained the last few years too… out of season no less. Our monsoon season is winter, so we should get a ton of snow but now we just get rain all the time.


  • Yeah I think it just smells and tastes more like what they naturally expect.

    And honestly works for me because I don’t have to deal with the shit that crops up in managed fountains. They get algae and thick blooms of slime bacteria/mold. Not amazing for health unless it’s a very easy fountain to clean (most are the opposite)

    But have a 5-10 gallon tank with a half inch of topsoil an inch of sand, and a bunch of cute plants… maybe some freshwater shrimp and scuds to clean up the plant waste… you are golden for pet water because shit you can leave that for several days and they won’t dramatically reduce levels.

    If you don’t have fish, a simple bubble-driven sponge filter is the way to go.

    And any saliva bacteria or whatever just gets consumed by the micro and macrobiotic, rather than forming bacteria mats that offput harmful nonsense in the water.

    Win-win.