To keep it short: my ex-wife cheated on me with this guy, we divorced, she married him immediately after. Since January we’ve been co-parenting, she has our son (14 years old) for 2 weeks & I have him for 2 weeks. Her now husband is wealthy, and for the winter holidays they plan on going to the Maldives for 3 weeks (I agreed to give up 1 week of my 2 weeks; gonna get +1 week with son after the vacation). Apparently son has been asking his mom and stepdad if I can come as well. So ex-wife calls me and asks me if I’d like to go, all expenses paid by them, just to be with our son and have some fun - and let’s “put all the bad blood behind”. I told her I’ll think about it, but honestly I don’t think I’d feel comfortable. At the same time going would make son extremely happy obviously. Idk.

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    4 days ago

    whatever you decide, remember your son will never forget that decision. since he’s the one who asked, you’d be doing it for him only. also remember asshole cheaters put the ball in your court, expecting you demonstrate to your son that you don’t really feel like being uncomfortable for his sake, making them look like the “mature” people for offering

    he doesn’t have the choice you do. shitty situation for everyone except the assholes who caused the whole thing

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      4 days ago

      Not really. He’s 14, not a kid. Just explain to him that would not make you feel comfortable to be around them. Don’t make an idiot out of yourself, that sets a really bad example for the son.

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        4 days ago

        “not really” what? he will forget about it? because 14 year olds are old enough to not ever be traumatized by anything?

        and “make an idiot out of yourself” how? by choosing to spend time with him?

        by all means tell your son “not being around them is more important to me than being around you” LOL

        100% of my comment stands