Had to supplement her $42,000 per year teacher salary with OF and made nearly $1 million in six months (almost 50 times as her salary) before the school caught wind of it and forced her to resign. Got a new job out of education and was fired five days later when they discovered news articles about her.

Edit: To those basically saying she had it coming because she made her OF account public…

  1. Sex work is real, valid work.
  2. There is nothing wrong with sex work. Sex-shaming is Puritanical horseshit.
  3. “But her students could find her OF!” is a problem their parents should have to solve. It is not her responsibility to use an alias, because of points 1 and 2.
  4. Every other argument criticizing her for her sex work during her non-teaching hours is fucking moot.
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    Eh, it actually is very hard to change all your habits.

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      I don’t even know if it’s the habitual aspect that would weigh on you.

      I know folks that objectively have it easy, but are bothered by a lack of perceived “value” to society. That being a soulless middle management in some certain company does nothing that feels valuable, but you get crap tons of money. Then someone else who makes real changes in the lives of young folks, but society feels like keeping them around poverty level. Feeling both of those can weigh on someone with a conscious. I was doing something important and couldn’t eat, but now I can eat, but it makes no sense that this should be valued more.

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        Listen, I was trying to limit my assumptions as much as possible. The main point of my comment is that a change in lifestyle has a transient negative effect on mental health

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      Then wake up that early anyway 🤷‍♂️
      No one is forcing her to sleep in while she’s not working.

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        I’m not talking about sleep, I’m just saying that a complete 180 in lifestyle is stressful. Whether it’s for the best is irrelevant.

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        She’s saying not having to be somewhere everyday that she’s proud of and where she helps children grow which brings her great meaning and purpose has been hard on her. Use your thinking cap.

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        Wake up that early and do what?

        Are you internally motivated in everything you do? You probably respond to a lot of external forces that structure your day too.

        If not, please share honestly because I want to learn more about your ways

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      It actually isn’t that hard. You know, compared to actual problems.

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        It actually is hard, habit psychology has been thoroughly researched. However, once she stabilises she’ll be in a much better place than she was before.

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          She’ll be right in between two dudes pounding away if this news is correct

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              Could you explain why?

              Apparently she likes to work as a porn actress. This involves her having sex. More power to her but I think it’s weird we’re supposed to cheer her on but it’s totally inappropes to say out loud what it involves.

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                Comment 1: “ ‘Not having to get up and go to a 9-to-5 has been tough on my mental health,’ Coppage said. Oh, the humanity! That poor thing. "

                [Small discussion on personal habits]

                Comment 3: “She’ll be right in between two dudes pounding away if this news is correct”

                Completely absurd^

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                  Well you’re the one who claims she’ll be ‘in a better place’ when she finally gets over the comfortable 9-5 grind and stabilises into the getting pounded for wads of cash during, hopefully, a more flexibele schedule

                  I don’t see why we have to tip toe around the specifics

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                    There’s a fundamental difference between “tip toeing around the specifics” and extrapolating for a general case.

                    Her specific lifestyle is irrelevant to whether improving financial stability leads to increased wellbeing.

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        Idk, i had friends who were in between jobs for a month or two and almost lost their minds. I had shingles for almost a month and had the time of my life.

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          Yes, not being able to deal with bordom or entertain yourself can lead to mental problems.

          But that is not caused by getting fired or not finding a job. If anything it’s a problem that is masked by the having job.

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            I’m not entirely sure this is a fair take. Although i can understand where you’re coming from, i think it’s reasonable to consider that a decent number teachers (although certainly not all) are both passionate about their profession and also underpaid. This almost forces teachers to have a second job (side hustle) to enable them to continue teaching. The teacher in the article chose a less socially acceptable side hustle, but not an illegal one, and once found out, her employer activated a morality clause to fire her.

            From a purely monetary standpoint, she’s probably fine (assuming she continues her other job), but I’m not sure it’s reasonable to say that money is the only thing she cares about. Being fired from her (probable) passion of teaching sucks.

            Also, being unemployed sucks. It isn’t really about being bored so much as not feeling like you’re part of society. And for many, of course, it’s a financial hardship, but it can definitely be mentally taxing when feel like you don’t have a meaningful role in life or your community.

            There is also added social connotation. For example, meeting people, you often ask what you do. “I’m a teacher” will elicit significantly different responses than “i used to be a teacher” or “I’m an onlyfans model.” Whether or not any of us agree that it’s “ok” has no bearing on her future interactions and life. Labels like these matter to a lot of people, so i could definitely see how this would be mentally and emotionally taxing.

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              “I’m a teacher” will elicit significantly different responses than “i used to be a teacher” or “I’m an onlyfans model.”

              This sums up the key point. Being financially on good footing is a part of happy living, but being proud of your contribution to the world is another. This is not just because it’s taboo, but because it just doesn’t feel like it should be as valuable. I’d say the same problem could befall a firefighter turned corporate lawyer.