• EndlessApollo@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Ye, I understand the urge to go after low hanging fruit like that, especially on people like Trump who fatshame people all the time. As a queer person I don’t even mind people joking about Putin being gay for similar reasons (especially bc I’ve heard it actually really bothers him), but don’t take that as permission to do that around other gay people or anything, bc the general consensus is that gay people don’t want to hear straight people making fun of homosexuality, no matter the context. Same is true of how most fat people feel about fatshaming trump, or how most disabled people feel about the shit in this comment section. Most of the time that bigotry doesn’t even matter to the person being insulted, just the group being made into a punchline. Imo even calling them a hypocrite for stuff like that is fine. Trump’s called women fat and ugly, nothing wrong with pointing out how silly that is, as long as you’re not just calling him fat and ugly for its own sake

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      9 months ago

      I think this is fair. I’m fat, queer, and disabled. My (neurodivergent) son calls me grandma and it’s funny because I know he means it lovingly. However, if my boss decided to do something similar, I’d spit in his eye. It’s a case-by-case basis.

      Make fun of Caitlyn Jenner for being a entitled, right-wing murderer? We’re good. Make fun of Caitlyn Jenner for being trans? We’ve got a problem.

      Who is saying it and the intention behind what they’re saying matters quite a bit.

      • downhomechunk@midwest.social
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        9 months ago

        I guess I’ve also learned over the years to be less sensitive. For example, I’m in recovery. I used to have a very serious problem with heroin, cocaine, etc. And I used to get very offended when people would joke about crackhead, junkies, etc. I’d correct them and try to make them feel bad. But now I realize that most people don’t have malice in their hearts. Just like most people know someone who is fat or queer, most people probably also know someone with a substance abuse problem. So I’ve learned to appreciate the humor and let it go. Crackheads do some silly shit after all, and I’m sure I was no different in those days.