• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    When I was a kid in the 90s/00s, I was basically a shy nerdy (later to be determined as autistic) twink.

    Almost all my friends were girls, because… almost all the guys I knew were rude macho assholes.

    … I guess I am an outlier, possibly along with my friend group, but uh, I did get invited to, and attend, a good number of slumber/cuddle parties.

    I know this may sound unbelievable, but they really were just cuddling, no hardcore sexual acts.

    Well ok, one time a female friend of one of my female friends, who I hadn’t met before… we ended up making out and fondling each other, but our clothes stayed on, I swear!

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      1 day ago

      I absolutely believe you as i had a rommie with which i cuddled. She told me that she is not attracted to me at all so there was no thoughts about romance or sex. I loved it and i miss it but i also have to admit that my very stupid brain would fall in love with any women (not related to me) that cuddles with me repeatedly.

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        1 day ago

        and this is why i consider a partner a prerequisite for a lot of my improved mental health, my lizard brain needs that… hole… filled before it can quiet down and let me get on with things.