The promise of self hosting is that you own your data which may be better for privacy/security if you know what you are doing. The same doesn’t apply if you have to trust a third party, even if it is a friend/family member who provides you with a service they host. They become a service provider to you.
It’s not pedantry, it’s using the right terminology.
And yes, self hosted means hosted by yourself. It’s in the name. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-hosting_(web_services)
The promise of self hosting is that you own your data which may be better for privacy/security if you know what you are doing. The same doesn’t apply if you have to trust a third party, even if it is a friend/family member who provides you with a service they host. They become a service provider to you.
A lot of selfhosters share with family. I’m not gonna make my wife spin up her own servers when she can use mine.
And what would you call your wife in this scenario? A selfhoster? Or a user of a service hosted by boonhet?
She’s not using a selfhosted service, she’s using a boonhet-hosted service. Because she has no control over the service or her data.
That’s just being overly pedantic.
That’s called ‘peer-to-peer’, not ‘hosting’.