Don’t try to medicalise harassment. Cyberbullying is a community issue. It’s up to the members of the communities to fight against harassment and support their vulnerable. It’s up to our community leaders to especially uphold a safe environment for all kinds.

Lemmy moderators are qualified to and capable of helping people with misgendering and harassment by removing misgendering and harassment and banning people who do it. The misgendering and harassment aren’t on this community, so the mods here can’t remove it directly, but anyone with a lemmy account can report the offending comments or tell the people responsible to knock it off.

Here’s some advice from the University of Cambridge on how to be an active bystander: https://www.breakingthesilence.cam.ac.uk/prevention-support/be-active-bystander

How You Can Intervene Safely: When it comes to intervening safely, remember the four Ds – direct, distract, delegate, delay.

Direct action Call out negative behaviour, tell the person to stop or ask the victim if they are OK. Do this as a group if you can. Be polite. Don’t aggravate the situation - remain calm and state why something has offended you. Stick to exactly what has happened, don’t exaggerate.
Distract Interrupt, start a conversation with the perpetrator to allow their potential target to move away or have friends intervene. Or come up with an idea to get the victim out of the situation – tell them they need to take a call, or you need to speak to them; any excuse to get them away to safety. Alternatively, try distracting, or redirecting the situation.
Delegate If you are too embarrassed or shy to speak out, or you don’t feel safe to do so, get someone else to step in. Any decent venue has a zero tolerance policy on harassment, so the staff there will act.
Delay If the situation is too dangerous to challenge then and there (such as there is the threat of violence or you are outnumbered) just walk away. Wait for the situation to pass then ask the victim later if they are OK. Or report it when it’s safe to do so – it’s never too late to act.

Friend of drag here, most of this drama bs could just be over and done with if people just stopped being assholes for no good reason