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hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•I want a boyfriend, but I feel like I don't deserve to have one, and I keep alternating between those two thoughts which is making me feel confused. Is this normal?6·2 days agoTo me it sounds like something other than depression, however it doesn’t matter because you are clearly right, these are extremely unhealthy thinking patterns and it is a symptom of maybe bigger issues you need to address.
And it is true, everyone deserves love and there’s nothing about you that makes you categorically undesirable. Just some things specific people like or don’t like about you.
You should consider talking to a therapist, or at least someone who is not involved with you day-to-day but understands you. Having someone reality check your thoughts, especially those ones, can be extremely helpful to get a better frame of reference against those toxic thoughts, that are often times not rooted in reality.g
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Deutschland@feddit.org•Die erkaufte Freiheit des Herrn H.8·3 days agoJep
Da hat jemand die Grundleitsätze unseres Justizsystems nicht verstanden. Am wichtigsten ist Rehabilitation, dann Sicherheit und erst dann das gerechte Aufwiegen der Strafe.
Der Sinn ist nie die Bestrafung an sich.
Neben dem Fakt dass es verdammt dämlich ist geizig zu werden durch Schwarzfahren, denn es sind nicht die Milliardäre die die Bahn nutzen.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto You Should Know@lemmy.world•YSK: Digg has launched an alpha release of its new app on TestFlight for iOS users201·3 days agoI think this is not the right community for random news
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?3·7 days agoYou too, it sounds like you got this on your own already even if it’s difficult, but if you need to talk you can hit me up anytime:)
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?3·7 days agoSounds like you’re going through a lot.
First off,what other have told you is the best basic advice. There’s nothing you can do and you have to assume she won’t change her mind. You also said you are 23 and you feel like you are being childish. That’s absolutely not true, if someone broke up at 30 or 40 or 50 or whatever with a long time friend it would be just as rough. This situation is hard, and there’s no learning unfortunately and no preparation, it just sucks.
And that is what I would say as well: it’s fucked up. It sucks. It’s fine to feel betrayed and sad and angry and lonely. It’s very fair to feel that way, because you lost something important. It’s ok to not feel ok and it’s normal to be so moved by something so hard.
Maybe there’s something to say for changing your routine a bit. Finding other friends circles that she is not involved in, trying new hobbies and everything. That way you have something new to think about and other people to talk to - this might help with her being around parties every now and again.
Also make sure you take care of yourself, start building up a new routine.
It could be beneficial to talk to her when your feelings towards her are not as strong anymore, but it will always be awkward and there’s nothing to expect from it. It will just be a conversation and who knows where it goes.
These are all steps that can help you move on, but of course there is no handbook for breakups so this could look very different for everyone.
Although I haven’t been in your situation it sounds really rough and I’m sorry you have to go through this. I’m sure you’ll find someone else who loves you and will stick around.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why are you here and not on Reddit?19·10 days agoYes.
It’s not a utopia, but it’s the better social media platform for my mental health and I genuinely like it here.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Has anyone seen Al Jazeera's Youtube stats?81·14 days agoI mean NGL they used to be pretty unbiased for quite a while which was very odd considering they have direct ties to Qatar. I can’t speak for their recent coverage though and there’s probably something to be said about them falling out of favor.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Today I Learned@lemmy.world•TIL: The Korean War was Actually a Genocide Committed By the United States in order to “Contain Communism”English2·15 days agoThis
It’s literally questioning the conclusion. It’s as on point as it can be.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Unpopular Opinion@lemmy.world•Cologne & Perfume are meant to be discovered not displayed.English5·17 days agoIt’s not that easy.
Turns out there’s a statistically significant disposition of people to sweat way more that normal, and for those this doesn’t work.
Also, when it’s very hot people sweat from all over their body so anti perspirant and deodorant doesn’t really work because they would have to apply it on every patch of skin which just doesn’t calculate.
Then the OC talking about a different disability which makes this a guessing game.
There’s just too many factors. Turns out people are very different.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Buy European@feddit.uk•TSMC will open a European chip design centre in Munich, Germany13·21 days agoThis could be very interesting.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto [Moved to Piefed] Animation@lemm.ee•Shows similar to the owl house?English5·23 days agoSecond this.
I see Hilda and that series is way underrated, and one of my friends is also obsessed about Gravity Falls, and I’ve heard only good things about it.
Steven Universe starts of targeted at very young children but in the matter of a season or something it grows into a cartoon with themes like lgbtq, social relationships, divorce and more. It’s brilliant and Rebecca Sugar is a genius for writing it.
She-Ra feels a bit more Disney to me for some reason but it’s a good show as well.
Man there’s so many gems in there
This does not address the issue of choosing the server though. This only works if the standard option for your server is reliable and rotated per registration.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Art Share🎨@lemmy.world•(3D) An Old Idea Made NewEnglish1·28 days agoThat is gorgeous
I love this. Imagine the gnawing of teeth when Putin realizes the smaller country he attacked gets so much recognition from the new pope. He must be livid. I’m so happy about this.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How long is a meter? (Only weird answers/definitions allowed)2·29 days agoWeird frog dude
I understand that this picture is making a point. But that’s not funny. Memes are funny usually.