

that’s so fun!! i’m jelly 😝
that’s so fun!! i’m jelly 😝
This weekend I need to travel for a post-op appointment, and in the meantime I need to get an extension on my leave at work approved, and ideally get a clearer sense of what date I will be released back to work.
I’ve been filing the sides more so they become more curved and less square. I find it allows me to grow my nails longer, and I have fewer torn or broken nails this way. At least so far!
This is my experience too, well put!
I’ve always gotten along better with women than men, but each woman and man is different and my ability to get along with them is more individual than generic.
Still, on average women tend to be more kind, emotionally aware, and in my experience have made more rewarding and worthwhile friends.
I know people report men being simple or straight-forward by comparison, but I find men can be difficult to read or understand, and less transparent about their emotions (even with themselves). This has made some relationships difficult at times, but I also think some of the issues are on my end. For example my partner gets along famously with guys and just knows how to vibe with them in a way I don’t.
I know, I’m so sad 😭 One of the nails literally come off entirely the next day. I was incredulous - and now three other nails have similarly sloughed off. I think it could be a bad bond of the base clear coat with my nail, I might need to like clean my nail with acetone first or something so it bonds better.
So much to learn, but I did this on a whimsy, so it’s OK if it doesn’t last, it was always imperfect. 😁
thank you 😊
Thank you!! I’ve recently taken up filing my nails consistently to shape them, it’s been nicer than I expected. I need to learn more about how to take care of my nails properly, how to strengthen them and properly file them, etc.
And the toes tip is so spot on, I literally have a gel pedicure on my nails from April 😆
I hate summer too, esp. the heat and humidity. I’m lucky to have air conditioning.
Glad your project at work is going well 👏
My mom made me some dumplings, so that’s nice 😁
Overall, more than one in five LGBTQ+ adults (22%) are living in poverty, compared to an estimated 16% of their straight and cisgender counterparts.
Trans folks in particular suffer from unemployment due to discrimination, and those that find jobs suffer from low wages and underemployment:
- Transgender workers report unemployment at twice the rate of the population as a whole (14% vs. 7% at the time the workers were surveyed).
- More than four in 10 transgender people (44%) who are currently working are underemployed.
- Transgender workers are nearly four times more likely than the population as a whole to have a household income of under $10,000 (15% vs. 4% at the time the workers were surveyed).
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We will allow the following women to be nominated by the council or referral agency, and join our public waiting list:
- Any woman female by birth (Gender recognition Act 2004)
- Any woman who holds a gender recognition certificate legally declaring her female (Gender recognition Act 2004)
- Transgender women who meet the definition of a person who ‘intends to undergo, is undergoing or has undergone gender reassignment’ (Equality Act 2010).
- Non-binary women who are either born female, or meet the 2 and 3 above
We will not accept nominations from the council, referral agency or waiting list for:
- men who cross dress
- transgender men
- anyone who we know has a history of male violence against women or children
The QL system should ask for gender and options should be:
- Man
- Woman
- Other
3.4. In terms of if a woman transitions to a man while living in our stock we would not take any action to end the tenancy
So, it’s a bit of a mixed bag - but it’s not the transphobic policy I expected (excluding trans women entirely). Not sure how transfem enbies would feel about this policy, or how difficult it is in the UK to get the gender recognition certificate, or what their definition of “gender reassignment” means.
First of all, yes, I think some people find it controversial to use the term “genocide” to refer to what’s happening to trans people. Part of the debate about the term “genocide” is whether it can apply to non-ethnic groups, for example. I would argue the spirit of the term does apply to any group, but some people disagree. I’m not sure why it’s so important for the term to be limited to ethnicity, I tend to think these arguments are not in the spirit of validating or recognizing very real oppression and violence intended to completely eliminate a certain group.
The motivation to use the term “genocide” is that the anti-trans movement has explicitly stated as their goal the total erasure of trans people:
During his speech on Saturday, Knowles told the crowd, “For the good of society … transgenderism must be eradicated from public life entirely — the whole preposterous ideology, at every level.”
Knowles subsequently claimed that “eradicating” “transgenderism” is not a call for eradicating transgender people and demanded retractions from numerous publications, including Rolling Stone.
Erin Reed, a transgender rights activist and writer, tells Rolling Stone that it’s an absurd distinction. There is no difference between a ban on “transgenderism” and an attack on transgender people, she says: “They are one and the same, and there’s no separation between them.”
“We are not gonna rest until every child is protected, until trans ideology is entirely erased from the earth. That’s what we’re fighting for, and we will not stop until we achieve it,” he said.
Specifically, the Lemkin Institute for Genocide Prevention has described the anti-trans movement as genocidal:
The Lemkin Institute for Genocide Prevention and Human Security condemns the anti-trans agenda of the second Trump Administration and warns Americans that the recent spate of executive orders, which are in line with a genocidal process against the transgender community that has been emerging in the United States for over a decade, are meant to pave the way for greater state repression against all individuals and other groups in the future.
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The Lemkin Institute believes that current anti-trans hysteria within the government is meant to serve three purposes within a wider genocidal process. First, the Executive Orders constitute the paper marginalization and ‘paper persecution’ of an identity group that has recently gained rights and greater acceptance in order to lock in evangelical support for the Trump administration. Second, the executive orders create a fictitious ‘cosmic enemy’ that will justify radicalization of government in general, leading to ever-more power for the executive branch; and third, the executive orders, over time, aim to normalize the destruction of identity groups by desensitizing the public to state-sponsored persecution of people based solely on their identities.
Taken together, the Trump Administration’s executive orders related to trans people would effectively destroy, if fully implemented, trans people as a group, in whole, to summarize the text of the Genocide Convention. The orders begin the process of removing a trans presence from collective life and preventing trans people from existing as themselves, forcing them back into invisibility and isolation. This attack on trans identity is reminiscent in the US context of the Native American Boarding Schools, where the goal was to “kill the Indian … and save the man.” Not only would the effort to deprive trans Americans of gender affirming care constitute a form of torture (and medical malpractice) with terrible mental health repercussions, but also such measures are a common phase in genocidal processes and generally lead to ever greater persecution.
Trans people in Florida prisons are being forcefully detransitioned and forced into pseudo-science conversion “therapy”, I don’t think it’s hyperbolic at this point in time to say the intentions of the anti-trans movement are genocidal, and I think the movement is largely succeeding in their goals.
So far necessary medical care has been denied to trans youth in many states, and the U.S. Supreme Court recently ruled that discrimination against people on the basis of “gender dysphoria” is legal. We already have data that the ban of gender affirming care (and in some cases, forcing physicians to detransition trans youth) has significantly increased the rate of suicide attempts among those trans youth.
We are also seeing tools used in previous genocides, such as “social death” where the concept of being trans is eliminated from the law and thus on a social and legal level trans people cannot “exist”. Laws in some states have already achieved this (which results in trans people never being able to fix their birth certificates or update their legal documents, for example), and now the federal government is operating under executive orders that establish the same (making it impossible for trans people to have accurate passports or federal documents, for example - but the policies impact much more, including forcing male TSA agents to pat down trans women and vice versa).
So the methods and goals are all genocidal, the only problem is that trans people as a group are not a national or ethnic group, so this would fail a narrow definition of genocide that way.
I get that, but I tend to think the burden of proof in a criminal case is much higher than the burden of proof to believe a victim outside of a courtroom.
In this case I don’t think there is any reason to doubt the victims, and the pressure and evidence points to victims tending to not come forward, the fact that there are multiple accusations from multiple victims indicates to me a much higher probability that Gaiman is guilty of some sexual crimes than not. Luckily my opinion or assessment of Gaiman’s behavior doesn’t have consequences like jail time, so my beliefs do not demand the same scrutiny as a judge’s or a jury’s.
Not that it’s wrong to think about the evidence, but culturally I think we tend to discount survivors and victims more than we validate them, and that can make questions about evidence really difficult, even harmful. Still, we obviously can’t ignore the problem of evidence, but luckily that’s primarily a concern for the courts (not that being cancelled doesn’t have consequences, and “cancel culture” can be reactive, essentializing, and unfair - that’s probably something we should collectively think about more).
here are the things I’ve read:
overview: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neil_Gaiman#Sexual_assault_and_misconduct_allegations
some reporting: https://www.vulture.com/article/neil-gaiman-allegations-controversy-amanda-palmer-sandman-madoc.html
note: content warning, NSFL
yeah, I agree with you - the harm is severe, it’s just with such a small population we can’t show the concrete harm the way we can with a trans population where deaths are already happening (but that doesn’t diminish the actual harm to Gaiman’s victims, which I would say is extreme).
aw, thank you! I’m a big fan of dandelions and other flowers.
that’s cool, how do you use the factsheets?