Congratulations you lived in a different world.

And I’m still in this world. Dude I still date. I’m only in my 50’s. I’m not even as old as brad pitt or Tom cruise.

We’ll be fine. I promise.

No clue. Some people just like to hate.

America has gone AWOL and is selling random people to slave camps.

What?! lol no. Just no.

And AI is getting close to being able to improve itself, leading to the singularity replacing us all.

No.

You’re the guy that for some reason people wanted to ban before right?

Yep, thats me. And they still wanna ban me. Lol

you’re as nice as can be!

Thank you! :)

I’ll pass. You keep doing drugs. I’ll keep fucking. Drugs aren’t my thing. But hey, no hate. You do you.

Fair point. I have just never experienced it on Reddit like I have on Lemmy. But you make valid points!

Tbh playing Magic the Gathering or Warhammer 40k with random dudes at a hobby store is cheaper and more fun than most traditional dates I’ve been on.

You 100 percent just fit the stereotype of most Lemmy users. lol

I mean, hey, it’s your life, you do you. But that sounds like a horrible life to me.

The crazy one was always great and was the only one who wanted it as often as I did but the rest of that relationship was a mess.

I’ve disagree with most of the posts in this thread. But I gotta say, this stereotype is true in my experience. I have dated a lot of crazy women, and mostly because even the everything else with them is a crazy fucked up mess, the sex is always amazing. The best sex I’ve ever had was with the crazy girls who were overly dramatic, and just always made shitty choices (like sleeping with me! haha)

I say this as someone who is in a kinda serious relationship now (she wants to get married, I’m not quite there yet). Love her lots, sex is great, but man, nothing matches the absolute insanity filthy sex that I had with the crazy girls. It’s something about that just not giving a fuck what they think or lack of respect, or something… But no lie, I kinda don’t wanna get married because don’t wanna give that all up just yet.

Sex with someone you love is the best thing.

It is! But sex with someone ya don’t love is pretty awesome too!

First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time.

Not an excuse for most Lemmy users. Most American Lemmy users make far more than the average American. I have seen Lemmy users legit bitch that they only make $80K a year. That’s more than I ever made a year in my entire working life. And I never had a problem dating.

It’s a personality issue, not a money issue.

As someone who is a bit shorter than average and is socially awkward, it’s tough.

You can fix the socially awkward part. And women aren’t as obsessed with height as Lemmy and the interwebs make them out to be.

It wasn’t “Do not, under any circumstances, speak to a woman” it was, “if you shoot your shot and she’s not interested, move on and don’t make it weird. If she is at work, be very careful as customer service does not equal flirting.”

Yes. I’m amazed so many people are missing this. I’ve dated a lot of women. And when I’ve asked someone out and it didn’t work out, ya shrug, laugh it off and move on. It’s not THAT personal. I’ve turned down others too. It’s the same thing. Some people click with you, some done. Lemmy users seem to take a rejection way too personally.

When your mom angrily throws out a Victoria’s Secret catalog calling it “disgusting” how are you supposed to feel about liking the pictures?

How about not thinking that since you are no longer a child listening to your mother?

Despite this, for my entire life, sex has just been a thing that you don’t talk about.

But that’s all on YOU. I have more women friends that guy friends, and women talk about sex a lot. More so than guys in my experience.

Dude, you’re an adult. Doesn’t matter how you were raised, you are obviously smart enough to unprogram yourself from your upbringing.

Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.

Unless you don’t let them.

IDK why you think every individual magically changing is something realistic.

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you want to change. You are so resistant to it.

and you get another lecture for saying hi

I’ve never ever had that happen. And I’m old enough to have fucked your grandma when she was still young and cute.

I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but I just don’t think it’s nearly as common as Lemmy likes to believe.

yes

Exactly right! Great post!

This is it. I feel like I am inflicting myself on women. That I am a problem for them simply for existing.

And that attitude and thought process is exactly why you would have a hard time dating. Don’t think like that, friend.