Semivir [he/him, she/her]

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Cake day: March 29th, 2024

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  • Probably not the person you might want answering this, but I’ll share my two cents anyway:

    I believe men are somehow shit outta luck if not conforming to the strong, tall, muscular, athletic and handsome ideal that seems to be peak masculinity. Although there seems to be an improvement on that front. Further normalising the androgynous look is going to help a lot of transmasc people feel less anxiety about passing. Not in the least because some of these aspects about the general beauty standard for men are unrealistic, even for cis men.

    As for me, I’m more than happy to contribute to normalise the androgynous look. I’ve never been happier with my appearance than since I’ve been experimenting with incorporating more feminine traits. Growing my hair out, getting a more feminine haircut, dyeing my hair, braiding my hair, removing body hair, styling eyebrows, that sort of thing. Oh, and most important of all, just doing all of this while never elaborating on it. It’s always just “hey this is my new thing, I will not be taking questions on this”.

    I feel like men should not be denied those sorts of thing while still being considered men. And all of us should be free to pursue our own beauty standards. Now to make society submit to those truths…













  • That’s a nice take! It is indeed the absurdity of it all that probably does it. My comment was more of a shower thought inspired by this post than a direct reaction to it.

    As you can probably tell from my choice of pronouns, I’m still figuring out what the concept of “being gay” even means to me. Though there’s probably no point to doing so. Which only makes being called gay even funnier to me.

    That, and of course the ridiculous concepts of what does and does not make you gay, that are going around. But that’s part of the original joke.


  • Anyone else feel like there have been so many different ways the word “gay” has been used as a slur - both ironically and unironically - that the whole concept just kinda doesn’t work anymore?

    The only response my brain produces these days is just giggling and moving on. Like if your intentions are to shock me, I’m afraid that ship has sailed. Best thing I can compare it to is how poop jokes stop being funny when you hit a certain age, and start being a different kind of funny once you hit another.

    But it probably really depends on your environment. Obviously if you do feel negatively about the whole, that’s a completely valid stance to take. Don’t think of this as me trying to ifluence what should and should not offend you.