They need good role models like their parents who take them to a local brewery and shove an iPad in their face then ignore them while the parents drink craft beer.
I wonder if my perception is fucked or what i have to think about these things. I was once on a date in a restaurant and next to us was a family of 5 and the youngest was maybe 7 and he played Fortnite on an ipad most of the time. My date pointed this out as “rude” and “bad parenting” and i agreed. But it made me thinking. I think i had pretty good parents, and they dragged me and my sister to a lot of places i didn’t want to be. But i was pretty happy as long as i could bring my gameboy. The boy was 7 of course he didn’t want to sit in a restaurant and do conversation with adults.
Now my sister has two children that are 7 and 5 and my perception has changed again. It’s absolutely scary how addicted kids are to phones. It’s like watching crack addicts. They aren’t even allowed on the phone a lot, but the things they would do to not even do anything interesting, and just press buttons and play the worst mobile games and watch the worst youtube videos ever created.
I liked games on my gameboy, and later game gear, but i never liked any game as much as my nephew likes to watch a minecraft video on youtube in a language he doesn’t speak (and he never played minecraft.) it’s truly bizarre, and because he only likes to watch these dumb ass videos and is only allowed to watch a short goodnight story every night if he behaves, he can’t even watch a movie. The concept of something bad happens to a main character blows his mind so much that he never wants to watch a movie with me, and would rather watch elsa getting impregnated by spiderman.
He loves the movie cars, and when i showed him cars 3, he couldn’t understand how lightning mcqueen would not win at some point.
Oh is definitely an addiction and it seems that’s what modern parenting has become. I definitely remember being bored AF when my parents dragged me to places and am I could do was sit around while they enjoyed their time, but they also had the care to get a babysitter for a couple hours so they didn’t have to drag us around.
Nowadays it just seems everywhere I go there’s always 2 under-7 kids with their noses buried in a phone or iPad blasting loudly in a public place, and their parents ignoring them while they scream and run around.
I had a coworker who would routinely bring their 4 & 6 yr old to a local dive bar while their band plays at 10pm. Both only paying attention to their devices
Parenting (and childhood) is intense and unrelenting. You can’t expect parents to be on stage continuously and continue to be patient and kind. You also can’t expect a 7 year old to be happy listening to their parents talk about work for 45 minutes. Taking breaks or responsibly drinking a beer is perfectly fine and isn’t going to negatively impact the child any more than allowing them to watch some age appropriate media for the time before they eat.
I expect parents to have a certain degree of knowledge about the things they give their children. Study after study has shown that unfettered access to smart devices has a negative effect on a child’s psychological development (who knew the secret advertising/manipulation machine would be bad for a child’s brain?! Only anyone with a working brain of their own!) It’s literally better to just plop your kid in front of a traditional television.
totally agree that parents need a break and a good drink. hell it is exhausting. but please avoid just putting them Infront of a screen. get the grandparents to look after them, let them sleep over at a friend’s house, organise a nanny. as a society we are already too often starring at screens.
Thats not a critique of parenting its a critique of screens. Which isnt exactly settled. For example my wife and I work in tech, all of our toys are technology of some kind. Its hypocritical of us to tell our kids they shouldnt be on these things. Responsible use has nothing to do with the technology itself, and varies widely from family to family and location to location.
Well good for you that you have no chores to do ever. How blessed you must be. What else should us dumb parents do better to manage our times so we can be as amazing as you?
I wouldnt personally, I don’t drink, but ive taken them to restaurants and they just were bored no matter what. Sometimes the choice is leaving in the middle of dinner or give them something to keep their attention, especially when they are so young its hard to keep their attention with conversation.
Yeah I wouldnt do it myself but I wouldnt judge anyone for it either.
Well, maybe when my kids have kids, I’ll feel comfortable enough to judge them for it lol but otherwise, no.
Well, its that or they might end up with a family who holds freakish anti-social views like “Love is Love” and “Let kids play dress up, they’re not hurting anyone”.
They need good role models like their parents who take them to a local brewery and shove an iPad in their face then ignore them while the parents drink craft beer.
I wonder if my perception is fucked or what i have to think about these things. I was once on a date in a restaurant and next to us was a family of 5 and the youngest was maybe 7 and he played Fortnite on an ipad most of the time. My date pointed this out as “rude” and “bad parenting” and i agreed. But it made me thinking. I think i had pretty good parents, and they dragged me and my sister to a lot of places i didn’t want to be. But i was pretty happy as long as i could bring my gameboy. The boy was 7 of course he didn’t want to sit in a restaurant and do conversation with adults.
Now my sister has two children that are 7 and 5 and my perception has changed again. It’s absolutely scary how addicted kids are to phones. It’s like watching crack addicts. They aren’t even allowed on the phone a lot, but the things they would do to not even do anything interesting, and just press buttons and play the worst mobile games and watch the worst youtube videos ever created.
I liked games on my gameboy, and later game gear, but i never liked any game as much as my nephew likes to watch a minecraft video on youtube in a language he doesn’t speak (and he never played minecraft.) it’s truly bizarre, and because he only likes to watch these dumb ass videos and is only allowed to watch a short goodnight story every night if he behaves, he can’t even watch a movie. The concept of something bad happens to a main character blows his mind so much that he never wants to watch a movie with me, and would rather watch elsa getting impregnated by spiderman. He loves the movie cars, and when i showed him cars 3, he couldn’t understand how lightning mcqueen would not win at some point.
Those kids shouldn’t have phones.
Giving your child a phone is bad parenting.
Who is showing the kid R34 animations?
Oh is definitely an addiction and it seems that’s what modern parenting has become. I definitely remember being bored AF when my parents dragged me to places and am I could do was sit around while they enjoyed their time, but they also had the care to get a babysitter for a couple hours so they didn’t have to drag us around.
Nowadays it just seems everywhere I go there’s always 2 under-7 kids with their noses buried in a phone or iPad blasting loudly in a public place, and their parents ignoring them while they scream and run around.
I had a coworker who would routinely bring their 4 & 6 yr old to a local dive bar while their band plays at 10pm. Both only paying attention to their devices
Parenting (and childhood) is intense and unrelenting. You can’t expect parents to be on stage continuously and continue to be patient and kind. You also can’t expect a 7 year old to be happy listening to their parents talk about work for 45 minutes. Taking breaks or responsibly drinking a beer is perfectly fine and isn’t going to negatively impact the child any more than allowing them to watch some age appropriate media for the time before they eat.
I expect parents to have a certain degree of knowledge about the things they give their children. Study after study has shown that unfettered access to smart devices has a negative effect on a child’s psychological development (who knew the secret advertising/manipulation machine would be bad for a child’s brain?! Only anyone with a working brain of their own!) It’s literally better to just plop your kid in front of a traditional television.
totally agree that parents need a break and a good drink. hell it is exhausting. but please avoid just putting them Infront of a screen. get the grandparents to look after them, let them sleep over at a friend’s house, organise a nanny. as a society we are already too often starring at screens.
Thats not a critique of parenting its a critique of screens. Which isnt exactly settled. For example my wife and I work in tech, all of our toys are technology of some kind. Its hypocritical of us to tell our kids they shouldnt be on these things. Responsible use has nothing to do with the technology itself, and varies widely from family to family and location to location.
Don’t hate. Parents are people too and that’s their time. Kid time is the other 22 hours that day.
Eh, you don’t need to do that. You have about 2-3 good every night
Well good for you that you have no chores to do ever. How blessed you must be. What else should us dumb parents do better to manage our times so we can be as amazing as you?
I get it, is hard, but taking your kids to a pub to watch ipad while you drink beer? Come on. There’s other things that is more suitable
I wouldnt personally, I don’t drink, but ive taken them to restaurants and they just were bored no matter what. Sometimes the choice is leaving in the middle of dinner or give them something to keep their attention, especially when they are so young its hard to keep their attention with conversation.
Yeah I wouldnt do it myself but I wouldnt judge anyone for it either.
Well, maybe when my kids have kids, I’ll feel comfortable enough to judge them for it lol but otherwise, no.
Well, its that or they might end up with a family who holds freakish anti-social views like “Love is Love” and “Let kids play dress up, they’re not hurting anyone”.
:(