I’ve seen clip of that financial advice show “The Ramsey show” on YouTube and the things that old man say are shocking to me. According to him I shouldn’t give a single cent to my parents… That’s so against my culture. I would be seen as downright evil if I do that.
Hell I’m unemployed for like a year by now and still sent 200 euro a few months ago to my father that still lives in my home country that I haven’t seen in 17 years.
Are you really Americans like that? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t see it as cold hearted but I see it as unnatural, and I’M a “socialess” cold person in essence.
It’s a white thing. Nothing is a monolith, mileage always varies, but look at what, middle of the bell curve, look at what our culture does. Take a close, hard look at nursing homes. Many cultures don’t have them. We do. Why? Because each generation tends to have a “I have my own life to live” attitude.
Get out of the house. No, really. What the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you still living at home? Are you deficient? Lazy? A mooch? Do you lack adulting capacity? What is wrong with you? Why are you 20(+) and still living at home? 30 and still at home? You probably don’t qualify as human any more.
This attitude from the very people who then end up abandoned in a nursing home by these kids they pushed out, later. Some, loudly lamenting how their kids abandoned them there, never come to visit, and are now living in their house.
Multigenerational is moving in, yes, but it’s not where things started, for sure. Some white parents even charge rent at 18.
Mileage varies. My white family did none of this. My mom is in a mother in law apartment on my property. Her parents lived with us. I lived with her during college. And so on.
But there’s a prevailing get out of the house as soon as high scho graduation hits, and an “I have my own life to live” attitude.