Most people find general incompetence extremely unattractive.
There’s a huge difference between general incompetence (the person is truly useless and won’t help with anything or do anything), or specufuc incompetence (they suck at some stuff but still useful overall and will gladly pitch in when they can on tasks)
I guess you also missed reliability. If you are reliable, never late to things, never bail or ghost, don’t lie, don’t gaslight, etc etc, then that’s usually attractive.
Empathy matters too, do you “get” it, do you demonstrate emotional intelligence, etc? Or do you put the person in an awkward uncomfortable position without regard for how they feel?
All you’ve left it is morals really.
Most people find general incompetence extremely unattractive.
There’s a huge difference between general incompetence (the person is truly useless and won’t help with anything or do anything), or specufuc incompetence (they suck at some stuff but still useful overall and will gladly pitch in when they can on tasks)
I guess you also missed reliability. If you are reliable, never late to things, never bail or ghost, don’t lie, don’t gaslight, etc etc, then that’s usually attractive.
Empathy matters too, do you “get” it, do you demonstrate emotional intelligence, etc? Or do you put the person in an awkward uncomfortable position without regard for how they feel?