For me amongst the small handful of reddit alts I oh so briefly tried, kbin didn’t necessarily feel the most friendly, but it did feel the most authentic sans toxic. Beehaw felt reverse toxic - it felt like an echo chamber, sanitized clean, proudly marketed. That gives me the jeebies.

Lemmy is too fragmentary and meme-heavy atm, requires too much from me. I fear that despite all it sells itself to be the contrary, Lemmy will eventually centralize. The market demands it. The incentives all point toward it. One instance to rule them all. Is that terrible? No. But it feels too familiar, and the narrative that Lemmy is beyond that somehow doesn’t sit well with me.

Kbin doesn’t feel like it’s pretending to be a force of misguided decentralization. Again, not a bad goal, just wishful thinking without safeguards. People here argue and debate with some semblance of what feels like common respect. If I’m gonna find a social aggregate home, this one feels most authentically homey.

In brief, I guess it’s kbin’s “we just kinda is” ism that drew and is so far keeping me here so far.