Why some men bully and hate on women who post here their own images? Specifically women who have a link in their bio.
As somebody who is not enjoying watching nor listening to ads, I understand that part, but we still get to see those beautiful/sexy photos/videos for free.
And even those women who post without any aggressive promotion, variety of content (not recycling the same photo in different sub-communities), not providing any links directly in their posts nor asking for anything and just enjoying being social, get attacked too. Why?
What has happened to live and let live? Why being so rude and disrespectful? I truly don’t get it.
I mean I have a theory, but I would hate to offend anyone, it’s just not in me to be disrespectful, so I keep it to myself for now.
That said, I also would like to acknowledge that vast majority of Lemmy NSWF members are awesome and many thanks to you all for building this fun community.
So I’m not one of those people but I think I get where they’re coming from.
The issue is one of quantity vs quality. Many of the most prolific OnlyFans posters make the same generic content and they post that content in every community they posibly can to hit the widest audience. It was really bad on reddit where they would post the same picture of their boobs in 15 different subreddits. So far that hasn’t been as much of an issue on Lemmy but I think people are woried that if it isn’t stopped early then it will start to be an issue and that is why they are targeting all OF posters. I get why OnlyFans posters do that though. OnlyFans is very competitive and very few people actually make any decent money off of it so if you want to make money on there then you need to market yourself agressively and you need to make your content generic enough to apeal to the widest audience.
On the other hand, if somebody is just posting their amateur content without any monetary goal then they don’t need to be concerned with marketability. Actual amateurs are free to be much more varied and to only post their content in communities where it actually applies. Sure, good verified amateur content is significantly more rare than professional OF content, but without all the professional OF spam it would be easier to find on here. A lot of people also don’t seem to understand the difference between someone who posts on OF as their job and someone who posts on OF because they were posting amateur content anyways so why not post on OF too and maybe make some extra money.
There’s also the fact that, like you said, people just don’t like being advertized to. That’s also probably the root of a lot of the hate.
best comment in the thread.
Proof for your theory is the German gonewild community on Reddit. I commented about this here. They have a strict no ads policy. Even a link to onlyfans on your profile will result in a ban. When they enforced their policy some people left, but all in all the community is a divers place with a good amount of posts from all genders. My guess is: if you live somewhere, where the lack of money will not fuck you up that hard, it is easier to do things just for fun.
Thank you for your valuable input and taking time to answer. Much appreciated.
I absolutely can see this aspect, as I have mentioned in my original post. Personally I also rather enjoy the community with social interactions that are more authentic and fun.
But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.
Now to clarify - I don’t think anyone should be targeted at all, subs can set the rules, we must follow them, and mods can warn and ban those who break them. And in all other cases - don’t like something then don’t look at it.
But it seems having a link in bio is enough to bring the hate on and this really is something I would love the haters to clarify- why?
But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.
The thing is that those people aren’t selectively targeting the “bad” OnlyFans users. They aren’t going through and reviewing peoples profiles in detail. They just see onlyfans and assume the worst.
But you have to make an effort to go to somebody’s profile and see the link.
If you just looking at the post and there is no link, nor mention and fun conversation is flowing in the comments, then why?
I want to get to the bottom of this 😆😆😆
Because they (not the person you’re replying to but those who engage in this behavior) hate SW and feel entitled to free cunt pics from anyone posting a tit pic and instead are mean in comments vs just finding all the free porn elsewhere.
😂😂😂 I think I love you 💖
What if we kissed under the LemmyNSFW forum post? 💋
Above and beyond reporting any shitty comments that we see, is there any other actions that you would like to see from socially well adjusted men here?
I’ve only been on here for a few days and gotten some weird hate comments. I know my look is not for most people and that is fine, but I’ve gotten more negative comments here than I ever did on Reddit in just a few days. It’s just weird that people rather spend more time looking at my pic they don’t like to post a negative comment. 🤷♀️
I’m truly sorry your experience with Lemmy is so negative. You look badass and beautiful, and I hope you don’t let this negativity get into you.
Because of misogyny
No it’s because people are annoyed by spam and they perceive that as spam
So posting a pic and having a link in your bio is spam? A link that you would have to click through to see? A link you would have to specificly hunt for? I haven’t clicked on every single pic posted, but I hardly see anyone posting any links in the comments here.
Posting the same pic 100 times is spamming
That is not the situation OP was talking about nor what I have experienced with rude comments on here. I’ve gotten rude comments with maybe reposting a single pic a total of 3 times before I really leaned this site. I haven’t seen every pic but I haven’t seen much spamming here at all.
People complain whenever anyone of any gender does anything they don’t like on the internet… I use mostly gay communities and see the same things?
But not usually in lesbian communities…so the common thread seems to be men.
Okay? That doesn’t make it misogynistic
fun fact: this is the highest comments NSFW post on Lemmy, aside from a now-locked admin post.
First time ever I’m on the highest score 🤣🤣🤣
I feel like the downvote arrow on lemmynsfw posts should be removed. For me it is a huge turnoff to see people downvoting other peoples original content to hell. It is a boner killer, and makes me feel disgusted at people’s entitlement and shit filled brains. I’m not into shit filled brains, take your hate and make a community around that kink so I can block it.
Honestly I’d be cool with that and an option by the poster to disable comments if they want. If someone wants to show their body off, let them. If it’s not a body I want to see I can scroll past it and say nothing like a normal, polite human being. If the OP wants to tolerate the comments, fine, but I don’t want anyone posting themselves and getting shamed/shit on for it.
I feel the downvote is still important for dealing with content posted to the wrong community and spam
They don’t need to be displayed, however. This should be a community configuration option.
Maybe I’m late to the party.
But first of all, it really sucks women go throught this kind of abuse here. Independently from if we like onlyfans let’s call them advertisement or bait posts or not, I think we need to be better than this as a community. The chill vibe is what most sets us apart from other places such as Reddit, and we really have to try to keep it that way. 
Secondly, I think some people become incredibly inconsiderate as soon as their anonymous on the Internet, completely forgetting that they’re talking to real life people on the other side. My imagination suggests that this is just some angry incel dude, hating on you out of frustration, and I really do hope you never take it personally. I don’t mean to be kissing your ass either, I just really like mutual respect on the Internet.
 Is my username would suggest, I do need to browse these communities every now and again to see who the good and the bad girls are ;) I feel that most of the time it’s very clear if someone is an only fans poster or lets call them amateur posters. The quality let’s say of the bodies and the professional grade pictures usually gives it away. That being said, I regularly see the distinction between the women who are posting this only to post the link in the comments, and never reply to any of the (thirsty) dudes in the comment section and the content creators who take this community seriously and invest a lot of their time to engage with viewers. I would definitely consider you in the second category.
On a sidenote, I am a mobile user on iOS, and I cannot see any bio of yours through Memmy. Or maybe I’m just a noob. I don’t use only fans, so it doesn’t matter to me, but I thought you should know people might not see the link.
Long story short, keep up the amazing work. I think you really improve the community with both your content and your comments. Don’t listen to the haters, I hope the trend will die down. 
Thank you for this.
I actually had nothing but great experience on Lemmy (bar one comment) previous to this post, but I came across many negative comments.
Now this has changed and I’m showered with hate, because I dared to post what I did.
It is insanity.
Not that it should make any difference but I am a total amateur - I work full time in professional environment closely connected to my education. I also take additional work, because life is expensive as we all know. This leaves me with very little time for myself and my hobbies, I have always enjoyed photography so I started experimenting on myself with the camera, not like I could had asked any friends to be my nude models nor had time to go and study photography.
I literally have thousands of photos in my folders that have never been seen by anyone - too revealing for social media.
It took me years to gave in to requests to open OF and start sharing. I never had it on my agenda. But it feels in a way like the most safe place to share and the best place to be appreciated too.
Yeah, I have a link in my bio. But I don’t go and shout about it. I don’t mention it in my comments and I don’t even make titles suggestive enough. I don’t feel like anything I post here screams “promo”.
I belive if somebody likes something they go and investigate and then they do what their heart desires. My link is as an option if anyone feels curious and would like to see more or support what I do. But that’s all.
At this stage I decided to use a block feature. I’m playing a Santa too and giving a bag of coal to all those nasty boys (they certainly don’t sound like men)
Thanks for being you and being awesome!
