Death is inevitable but we still seem flummoxed by it happening. We have all kinds of End of Life policies and procedures which do everything possible to make life difficult for those left behind.
Our language is around loss and unexpected, and grief and being bereft.
Why do we make Death so hard to process in our community and what can we do to normalise it across society?
an exception to what?
I write software for a living, an exception in software means something unexpected, out of the ordinary, it’s treated as a “special case”.
In a lifetime, death is not unexpected, it’s expected, even guaranteed. The only variable is time, but that’s true for many aspects of life.
Take for instance moving house, it’s got a high likelihood of happening during a lifetime, multiple times. There’s processes to update your address, tell your bank, the utility company, insurance, etc. There’s address change services, some even run by government that all but automate this.
Why is it that such a thing doesn’t exist for death?
The absurd amount of effort that family members after a death need to get through to deal with things like this is insane.
Death is not unexpected on whether it will happen, but when. Everyone dies, but you might be going to work one day and you die because of a moron burning a red light, or you might ne the healthiest person and get an incurable cancer, or people die from random hearth attack.