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  • My UU ordained friend is a nonbinary activist who was in Minneapolis during the ICE shit.

    The first time I went to a UU service, I was invited to a rationalist group that meets there.

    It’s all of the good things about religion (ie - community. People who will meal train for you when you are in trouble, people who will teach your kids good shit) without much of the baggage.

    I’m personally going to start attending either a UU or a really loosely Methodist group just for the social aspect. I think one of the failures of atheism is the lack of acknowledgment of the benefits of community and ritual. There’s not enough “third places” in the world, and churches can fill that roll quite well. Perhaps this is just my own recent near death experience speaking, but it’s good to have a community that cares about you.


  • Was married to someone from a billionaire family:

    They had so many tricks to get out of paying taxes. There’s an amount of money you can give as “gifts” to your family tax free, there’s ways of playing real estate where you never get taxed, and they always would donate a specific amount right before taxes were due to a specific charity that aligned with their right wing wants.

    They can afford lawyers to do whatever they want. I had it in writing that my ex husband and I would split our $200,000 that they had given us evenly, but then that somehow got turned into an “inheritance” for him that I had no access to (despite being there when we set up the account, and having my name on it.) My ex also maxed out my credit cards before he kicked me out (with the help of the police, who apparently have no report of helping kick me out.)

    So despite having worked full time to support my ex husband while he attending college free on his family’s dime, I will spend the rest of my life in poverty and debt. (He made sure to marry me after I graduated, so of course my student loans are also all my own)

    Money gives people too much power.



  • I had a friend that was really involved in UU (now ordained), and one of the great things they do is sex education. Age appropriate and queer affirming, better than anything you get at public school.

    The impression I get is some UU congregations lean more pagan, while some lean more Jesus, but in general they’re all willing to welcome everyone. My local one hosts atheist meetups even. The sermons are usually more focused on social justice and history than focusing on holy texts - I’ve attended just for some medieval history lectures.

    Really, it seems the perfect space to get all the social connections of church without all the extra baggage. If I had kids I’d be 100% taking them every Sunday.




  • Smirnoff Ice is just kind of gross and unpalatable in general. Like to the point where “icing” someone is a frat-tier prank where you hide one and whoever finds it has to drink it.

    As an “alchopop” I don’t think it has enough to mess with the stomach like that, although alcohol can be very variable in how it impacts you (my body just rejects straight liquor, I get drunk quicker on beer). Might have been the Smirnoff, might have just been your stomach getting upset for no reason (this will happen as you get older with or without alcohol, although obviously alcohol makes it much worse)







  • I agree with your complaints about Skyrim - it’s a lazily made game and the romance is pathetic. It’s possible to have well written romance in the series with the present game mechanics - see companion Vilja and the spectacular Ruined Tail’s Tale mod series (for Oblivion).

    But there’s gotta be something notable in that since 1992, if you wanted to play a black female character, any mainline Elder Scrolls game has had that option, and it’s always been no big deal. Heck, one of the few games that forces you to play a set character, Redguard, despite being mechanically shit has some of the best character writing in the series and fully fleshed Cyrus out!

    I’m not arguing it’s perfect. Morrowind’s bisexual character was originally only intended to harass female characters, but when they discovered they had messed up during play testing, they left it in because they thought it was fun.

    The kinds of representation you are wanting are things I’ve only really seen in the Sims or indie games (as a trans guy, I think I cried on the character selection in Dream Daddy).

    You are right in that it’s nice to have more representation of different bodies, but the games have always been able to adjust to that with mods. Not that Bethesda should get credit for modders work - they do tend to rest on unpaid volunteers fixing their games for them - but there has always been a community of people making those games represent and include them.

    I think the Elder Scrolls and Sims series both have some of the most diverse fandoms of any game series for a lot of these reasons. A lot of my initial exploration of my gender identity personally was in those games - allowing myself to play as a male protagonist in Morrowind was my first time that I allowed myself to think of myself that way.