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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Equating transgender women with cisgender men is biologically inaccurate.

    The tests assessed body composition, lung function, cardiopulmonary exercise testing, strength and lower body power.

    Among the results was a determination that the trans women athletes had decreased lung function compared to the cis women athletes.

    In addition, the bone density of the trans women athletes was found to be equivalent to that of the cis women. Bone density is linked to muscle strength.

    The researchers say their findings “reveal notable disparities in fat mass, fat-free mass, laboratory sports performance measures and hand-grip strength measures between cisgender male and transgender female athletes.

    “These differences underscore the inadequacy of using cisgender male athletes as proxies for transgender women athletes.”






  • I mean, a stand to pee (STP) device is a thing. They even market them for cis women. They’re pretty common among trans men, but I’ve never used them because I’m squeamish about stuff with piss on it, and also don’t want to miss and piss myself in public.

    Some look really unrealistic (basically an angled spout on a cup), some look moderately realistic (the spout is flesh colored and penis sized/shaped), and some are made out of silicone, highly sculpted, realistically colored, and you’d never know it wasn’t a penis.

    If someone’s kid is even able to notice the fine details of someone’s genitals or how they’re pissing at a urinal, it’s time to have a talk about where to keep your eyes when you’re in the bathroom, anyway ¯\_(ツ)_/¯




  • Cis is a prefix, not an acronym, you don’t have to all caps it. And if you weren’t cis then you wouldn’t be an ally, you’d be part of the community; allies are cis by definition.

    Try to understand that for most trans people, they encounter a shit ton of dishonest “questions” that are actually just ways for people to be transphobic . If 9 people punch you in the face after saying “knock knock,” you’d be telling the next person that says “knock knock” to fuck off, too.

    There is also a non-zero chance that whatever you’re asking is a right wing talking point you’ve absorbed after it’s been laundered through various dog whistles. Which isn’t a personal flaw, right wing shit is prioritized by algorithms and media. Even trans people have to unlearn a lot of this shit. It’s even possible you just independently came up with similar phrasing or reasoning without realizing it had associations with right wing shit. But trans people just seeing your comment in isolation can’t know that.

    Given the unprecedented existential threats to trans people going on right now in the US (likely where most of these people you’re talking to are from), maybe extend a little grace. On top of the general trauma of living as a scapegoat minority, many are losing or may soon lose health care and other rights. Expecting people to behave perfectly in the face of that is unrealistic.

    I’m not saying don’t feel however you feel about it when someone blows up at you, just recognize the context of it.



  • I think making it part of your identity rather than something you’re trying to get good at, like an exercise or craft you’ve never done before, makes people more likely to be defensive about the ways they’re not “perfect” allies.

    I don’t think what you’re getting at is wrong, it could be helpful to some people to have something like that to tell themselves for motivation. Something like “I will do what I can to be an ally” or “I will be an ally today” might be better; it’s an aspirational thing that needs constant effort, like staying fit.

    Which I realize isn’t super fun and sexy the way having a word to put in your social media profile is. But it’s an “any man who must say ‘I am the king’ is no true king” situation, you know?


  • Reminder that in some states it is a crime to do this with testosterone, and anything you write anywhere online (but especially the fediverse) should be considered permanent.

    Also reminder that the “SINGLE USE ONLY” label on injectable HRT can be ignored*, and used to not even be on there Back In The Day. Just look for crud floating around, warm the bottle in your hands to make sure it’s not just crystallized, and toss it if it doesn’t go away. Don’t mistake bubbles for crud if you shake it.

    * You can check to make sure it has preservative ingredients if you’re super worried about it