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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • I’m really happy to see positive comments about people wanting kids even though I’ve chosen the child free route. It makes me happy to know that there are folks out there who want kids for the love of it even if it is hard. People should be able to make the decision themselves and do what’s right for them. I do believe it’s a worthwhile and rewarding endeavor but not one that should be half-assed.



  • Aviandelight @mander.xyztoMemes@europe.pubHell
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    1 month ago

    I would much rather take a video call with screen sharing any day than try to figure out what the hell someone is talking about over email. Most problems are user error and it’s so much faster to see them doing it in real time.







  • For the newly bred and nearly dead dosing is heavily dependent on rate of metabolism. This is why kidney and liver function are so important to dosage. If a person can’t metabolize and clear out metabolites at a steady rate then it increases the bioavailability of a drug in the person’s system and can lead to overdoses. I used to tell my lab students that there’s no guaranteed way to tell how young kids are going to react to a medication just because their little systems are doing so much at wildly different rates.


  • Aviandelight @mander.xyzto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonerulejob
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    2 months ago

    Okay I’m choosing violence on this one so downvote away if you must. This is not an American thing, it’s a patriarchy thing. We are conditioned and constantly reinforced with the idea that sex is about subjugation and not intimacy in our language and culture. All my life I’ve heard phrases like “suck my dick/balls” used as an insult across all genders and then when I am expected to perform such acts in the context of a loving relationship my brain outright refuses to associate that with an act of love and my partner acts all surprise Pikachu about it. The patriarchy and our common language insists that sex is bad at the detriment and isolation of everyone. Men in particular are isolated and conditioned to never give/receive love or even recognize their emotions with the only consolation being that they are given permission to subjugate women. And so the culture persists through our own unwitting actions as people are impeded from ever fully connecting with each other in perfect love and perfect trust. It’s shit like this that keeps the patriarchy in control and us under control.


  • Functionally yes mentally and emotionally no. I just got word this week that our bosses are taking away our hybrid work schedule and making us come back into the office full time. I like my work and coworkers well enough but it’s not enough to keep me in an employer that’s abusive. Now all I can think about is the next round of surprise layoffs that are sure to follow. Last year was absolute hell always feeling watched and expendable. This year is looking to much of the same. I’m already looking for another job and kicking myself in the butt for putting it off for so long.


  • I don’t think you have misophonia. Misophonia is where you have an irrational stress/anger response to certain types of sounds. These sounds set off your fight or flight response. My personal triggers are eating noises and dogs drinking water. I don’t make that my partner’s problem though. I think your partner is being inconsiderate and the constant loud noises are overstimulating for you. You obviously need quiet time to recharge/concentrate and your partner is trying to drown the world out. The whole situation sounds unhealthy and unless you both are willing to work on the underlying issues together it will only get worse.