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    Assigned male at birth is the term you want to use. ā€œBiological maleā€ is a term used by transphobes to spread misinformation.

    Biology is very complex and not your elementary school version of biology. What makes someone ā€œbiologicallyā€ male? Is it having a penis, having testis, having more testosterone than estrogen, having XY chromosomes? These can all be intermixed with other characteristics.

    The ā€œbasic biologyā€ definition doesnā€™t work in the real world, and the people using it are actively trying to harm trans people or ignorant. Now youā€™re more informed so ignorance isnā€™t an excuse anymore.

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      Iā€™m not super versed into this, just looking to learn šŸ¤—

      Individuals having two X chromosomes (XX) are female; individuals having one X chromosome and one Y chromosome (XY) are male.

      Doesnā€™t that and having a penis means being a biological man? I donā€™t really see how ā€œbiological manā€ is offensiveā€¦

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        Small matter of clarification. Liberal and far left are as far apart as liberal and far right.

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          I know youā€™re a Marxist, and disagree with the typical definitions of leftist politics, i was just trying to refer to those at the tail end of liberalism.

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            But marxist, liberal, and leftist are different words. And the correct term for me is libertarian. I am a libertarian.

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              I take it that youā€™re not American then. Americans and Europeans use the word ā€˜libertarianā€™ differently.

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        Is an intersex person biologically male and female then?

        Is a person with xy chromosomes and a vagina but no penis female?

        Thatā€™s the issue. Male and female sex assignments are a binary based in language, social relations, and the opinion of the Dr making the assignment based on the information they have. And a binary doesnā€™t allow for all of the variations weā€™re aware of, let alone the ones weā€™re not.

        Hence, assigned sex. Not biological sex.

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          You are claiming that biological male and female has no use because of the edge cases where its not so clear, but its still useful most the time.

          Besides, assigned at birth is pretty clear too. Doesnt say assigned at birth and can never change or assigned at birth and we are super sure.

          You canā€™t just say people canā€™t use a bunch of words because transphobes have used it as an insult. The words are still meaningful, and hateful people will say literally anything. Why give them any power in the first place?

          If someone says some awful transphobic shit, then fuck their opinion and fuck them and move on with your day. They arenā€™t suddenly some messiah giving you gospel. Dont let them live rent free in your head.

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            I feel like I didnā€™t explain the position very well earlier and I think that the initial poster whi called out the word wasnā€™t as gentle about it as they could have been, which set the tone for the conversation.

            It is used in common speech a lot, and because of that I think people should get a lot of grace around it. I mean shit itā€™s on the planned Parenthood website.

            However itā€™s really not a very precise word. And due to that lack of precision, it is being weaponized by fascism to enact discriminatory legislation.

            I pulled this quote off of Reddit and they do a much better job of breaking it down than I did.

            Everyone has the biological and genetic capability for both androgenic and estrogenic secondary sex characteristics.

            If Iā€™m ā€œbiologically maleā€ why am I able to grow tits just like any other woman? I may have once been some sense of biologically male, but my genotype is capable of producing female phenotypes just like anyone else with the necessary exposure to corresponding sex steroids.

            DNA has no sex. We all have the genes to be either. The only real difference is whether a single little gene called SRY is on or off. And even then, that can be fuzzy too.

            Itā€™s just a bad descriptor of a very complex thing. Sex isnā€™t immutable, gender is whatever, and the only reason to bring someoneā€™s ā€œbiologyā€ into it is if you either misunderstand it or are being intentionally harmful.

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            Yeah the use of the word is in relation to the edge cases, where it is not useful.

            These discussions are around the edge cases. Use the accepted terms that experts use to refer to these people.

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            Itā€™s not about it being an insult. Itā€™s about being skeptical of the existence of trans people and using language to affect our very real material conditions, like access to healthcare or using bathrooms we feel safe in.

            Assigned sex at birth is both more accurate, and more inclusive.

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              Why would you assume Iā€™m skeptical that trans people exist?

              Iā€™m skeptical of proposed solutions, but I am with anything. Put another way, I know the problem is real, but I wouldnt say the causes or solutions are well understood.

              Additionally Iā€™m concerned with the social pressure that is put on people to shut up and accept whatever a trans person tells you. That makes me skeptical that people are arguing unbiased.

              Lastly, I dont like that we seem to be pushing ahead without proper scientific review (https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/03/health/aap-gender-affirming-care-evidence-review.html).

              I really hope we have all guessed right already, and I understand some might feel they have run out of time, but to me theres a lot of unanswered or unsatisfyingly answered questions.

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                I was trying to explain how itā€™s being weaponized. As I went into in my follow up post, itā€™s a very commonly used term, and I donā€™t assume ill intent when it is used. People were asking what is wrong with it, and I was trying to explain.

                But I donā€™t think the original person who called the word out is right that itā€™s hate speech. It has become a right wing dog whistle for exclusion. But itā€™s a common usage, even on websites like planned parenthood it shows up. Calling it hate speech is an unfair stretch. Intention matters here.

                Personally, I donā€™t feel itā€™s a very helpful concept. I donā€™t fit neatly into any of the boxes aside from maybe intersex. I have sexual characteristics of both so my biological sex would be both.

                But the debate about my rights are framed as male or female. Sarah McBride is being attacked for her bathroom choice based on ā€˜biological sexā€™. And her sex isnā€™t anyoneā€™s business but her Drs and people she shares it with to begin with. Plus what they mean is cis womenā€™s only bathrooms, because Iā€™m sure they donā€™t want trans masc people there either, and itā€™s obvious segregation.

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              Hey look the firing squad is starting to bend in towards itself.

              We gotta make sure we use the right words before we can even begin to have a productive conversation, if those words change every 6 months thatā€™s just too bad, use the current one or youā€™re a bigot.

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                I didnā€™t call anyone a bigot. In fact I took that comment as a good faith question and answered in good faith.

                Whoā€™s turning the firing squad around? The trans people trying to educate? Or the ā€˜alliesā€™ who would prefer not to listen?

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                  Whoā€™s turning the firing squad around? The trans people trying to educate? Or the ā€˜alliesā€™ who would prefer not to listen?

                  ā€œLeftistsā€ as usual, clearly.

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          You didnā€™t even debate my point. I was only referring to amab and afabs. I donā€™t care about the edge cases because theyā€™re not part of the point Iā€™m making. Itā€™s been well known that individuals with XY chromosomes and a penis are biologically male a.k.a amab, so whatā€™s the difference?

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            Iā€™m asking my own questions to critique your position. I didnā€™t ignore it. This is a debate technique that goes back at least to Socrates.

            Is an xy person born with a vagina biologically male? Biologically female? Biologically neither? Or biologically both?

            Edit: Oh I see, the mistake I made was thinking that your initial question was in good faith and now that I see that itā€™s not I will just put you on block.

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        What about people with testis but no penis? What about people with XY chromosomes but a vagina? What about people with a penis and vagina?

        ā€œBasic biologyā€ is the problem. You think a high school course was enough for you to have a complete understanding of biology. Biology is complex and messy, which your class didnā€™t discuss. It taught rigid definitions, which donā€™t exist in nature. Hormones define biological development. Every individual has different levels of different hormones, and also things just happen strangely sometimes too.

        Thereā€™s also an issue with intersex people where some are born with both male and female genitals and the doctor (without consulting anyone else) may remove components the baby was born with to make them fit the rigid definition of male or female that they decided.

        Nature is complex. Not understanding the complexity is fine, as long as you donā€™t pretend to. If you insist that your understanding is complete though then youā€™re arrogant and ignorant. Itā€™s best not to be that way because it prevents learning and improving yourself.

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        Its because sexual differentiation is many process that starts with an SRY gene and ends with hormone receptors all over the body. Evolution also acts on all of it at each step of the process. A good example is like chest hair patterns on men which are all over the place.

        You can have a penis if the correct receptors are triggered while still not having testes or an SRY gene.

        Evolution also has examples of creatures that evolved so that both sexes (hyenas) or none (many birds) have a penis in different creatures and where sexuality is environmentally determined (turtles). These evolutionary pressures that created all these animals may be acting on humans also.

        Which all comes down to the idea that the way we treat people is socially constructed. Like we donā€™t want murder so we lock up murderers.

        People who want to legislate biological binaries are saying thereā€™s an inherent danger to society in allowing the edge cases to exist. I and many others would argue this is a kind of short-sighted eugenics program that disallows human diversity for purely aesthetic reasons.

        The results are like intersex babies getting gruesome gender assignment surgeries to fit better into the binary so when scientists later poll people they get results created by the binary. Weā€™re sort of basking in our own farts when we talk about biological sex.

        Edit: it appears the person weā€™re replying to is uninterested in factual discussion and is just here to reinforce his own hateful worldview.

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        Biological sex is not as cut and dry as you might think.

        Assigned male at birth is overall a better more descriptive term, as through medical transition trans people acquire different sexual characteristics.

        Iā€™m not an expert in the field but this is how Iā€™ve seen people more educated than me in biology describe it.

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          Yeah. Biologically, my sex is distinctly transfeminine as someone post transition, before transition, I like many trans people was some variety of intersex, but assigned male at birth puts me into the big bin that means what they were trying to say.

          Though also blaming trans womenā€™s assigned sex at birth for willingness to vote Republican is weird considering how much more likely cis women are than trans women to vote that way.

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              You are correct, horse_battery_staple. (Sorry). But yeah, a white trans woman whoā€™s a republican is notable, but a white cis woman whoā€™s a republican is a significant portion of my coworkers. Hell, Iā€™d be shocked if we werenā€™t more pro choice than cis women statistically, not out of superiority or anything but because weā€™re more likely to have been driven away from politics and religion that tend to promote anti choice beliefs and because we wonā€™t have the miscarriage trauma that Iā€™ve seen drives some women towards anti choice beliefs.

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                This has absolutely been my experience. Thereā€™s a serious problem especially in ā€œChristianā€ households of women to vote how their husband tell them to.

                On a completely different topic, if you find that folk need it, this has been useful in the past.

                https://www.mutualaidhub.org/

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        I havenā€™t even had bottom surgery yet, but thanks to HRT my metabolism is much more in line with that of a typical woman than that of a man. Meaning that it is much more accurate to refer to me as a biological woman than as a biological man. So saying Iā€™m the later isnā€™t just insulting, it is even scientifically incorrect. A trans woman who has received bottom surgery is in fact for pretty much all intents and purposes the same as a cis woman who has received a radical hysterectomy. Unless you call that kind of cis woman a biological man, doing the same to the trans woman is just as nonsensical.

        And yes, this really affects pretty much everything: The treatment of things like brain tumors depends on biological sex and if you treat a trans woman like a man you are going to see the same bad outcomes that treating a cis woman like a man would have. Because again: Trans woman are (from a certain point in their transition onwards) biological women. Yes, it changes, get over it.

        The reason to talk about amab/afab is specifically because they are the only terms that are reasonably consistent in all edge cases, except clerical errors.

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          Amab and afab are equivalent to biological male or female, just less explicit I suppose.

          Would you still argue that you are more biologically female than male if you considered that your DNA in every bit of your body still has the male set of chromosome?

          Iā€™m not arguing against you, more so arguing that the distinction doesnt much matter and could be argued either way. Iā€™d rather just take someoneā€™s word for it when they say who they are. Thats the whole point isnt it, acceptance?

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            Amab and afab are equivalent to biological male or female, just less explicit I suppose.

            Thatā€™s the point: They are not! Any sensible interpretation of a biological sex has to look at the whole system and we have comprehensively proven that biological sex can be changed. Itā€™s a spectrum to begin with. Refusing that is like refusing that irrational numbers exist and claiming that every number can be written as a fraction: Understandable if you subject-matter education ends in 7th grade, but not if you actually looked into somewhat deeper at all.

            Would you still argue that you are more biologically female than male if you considered that your DNA in every bit of your body still has the male set of chromosome?

            For starters, define male set of chromosomes. If you say XY, then you will be interested to learn about De-la-Chapelle-Syndrom and Complete androgen insensitivity syndrome.

            But even if we put that aside, the thing is: Chromosomes really donā€™t matter all that much. The relevant differences primarily lie with organs and hormone-levels. Now, there are things you can do with gene-therapy (there was for example that trans girl who used CRISPR on herself to get her testicles to produce E instead of T). So itā€™s not that they donā€™t play any role at all anymore when you are an adult, but what matters much more is the overall metabolism and HRT is absolutely capable of switching that around.

            Like: Name the difference between a post-op transwoman and a cis woman who received a radical hysterectomy. Their metabolisms are functionally identical and both will have to substitute the same amount of Estradiol, because both lack ovaries. Chromosomes really donā€™t affect anything here, so insisting that they create a biological distinction, when they clearly donā€™t have any effect anymore is completely arbitrary.

            Iā€™m not arguing against you, more so arguing that the distinction doesnt much matter and could be argued either way. Iā€™d rather just take someoneā€™s word for it when they say who they are. Thats the whole point isnt it, acceptance?

            The thing is: That is about accepting someoneā€™s gender, which is usually indeed the more important thing.

            But biological sex of course also exists and the important thing for many of us is that it can in fact be changed and the claim that it canā€™t is deeply problematic and harmful.

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            Thats the whole point isnt it, acceptance?

            Right, and ā€˜biological sexā€™ is used as an exclusionary weapon that affects material policies.

            Would you still argue that you are more biologically female than male if you considered that your DNA in every bit of your body still has the male set of chromosome?

            Thereā€™s people assigned female at birth with those chromosomes. Are they ā€˜biologically male or femaleā€™? Thatā€™s a rhetorical question. The point is sex assigned at birth is a more accurate term for what is put on peopleā€™s birth certificates. Because sex assignment, and by proxy gender assignment, is based in sociology, not biology. And transphobes love using the argument from nature to justify real world policies and discrimination based on this sociological phenomenon.

            If youā€™re an ally, please listen to the folks living this and think critically about your own positions regarding these two terms. Thereā€™s a lot of excellent literature on the topic and right now more than ever we need solidarity, not more skepticism.

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              Just because someone is living this doesnt mean they have a full understanding of things. Skepticism is important, even more so from allies since they have the same goals.

              Just because a transphobe has said something doesnt mean someone else saying a similar thing has the same intent.

              I find it odd that this group thats trying so hard to stop being an out group, is one of the most aggressive at banning/labelling peolle and placing them into an out group.

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                Yeah, I think the person that called it hate speech in the beginning was stretching and that it wasnā€™t helpful.

                Itā€™s far to commonly used, and much of society still thinks about gender and sex in the binary. But our society is also structured off these binaries and it causes issues for people who donā€™t neatly fit in the boxes.

                But whatā€™s the this group shit? Iā€™m part of that group and I have been assuming good faith and acting in good faith. Please donā€™t stereotype. And try to understand trans people are trying not to lose their healthcare and to have basic rights. Some of us are going to be more prickly than others.

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          Thereā€™s a lot of trans-medicalism in your post comrade.

          A trans woman is a woman, full stop.

          HRT and bottom surgery doesnā€™t define a personā€™s gender. Only affirm it.

          That said, I do like pointing out to transphobes that I have less testosterone and more estrogen than my afab girlfriend thanks to gender affirming care.

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            Thereā€™s a lot of trans-medicalism in your post comrade.

            Not really, no. Iā€™m talking about biological sex, not gender.

            A trans woman is a woman, full stop.

            For non-medical and non-biological cases: Yes, and no one say disputes that.

            The thing is that there are some people who donā€™t believe that for the other cases. Iā€™m pointing out that while it is indeed a bit more complicated and takes some work to fully get there, trans women can even medically/biologically be women.

            HRT and bottom surgery doesnā€™t define a personā€™s gender. Only affirm it.

            Indeed. They change the biological sex, which helps affirming gender.

            That said, I do like pointing out to transphobes that I have less testosterone and more estrogen than my afab girlfriend thanks to gender affirming care.

            Which makes you biologically a woman. I really think we should hammer that point home and not let people get away with it by limiting our criticism to the choice of words, when we are scientifically in the right.

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              Thatā€™s fair.

              I just know in my own journey I have asked myself am I woman enough if I keep the dick.

              Am I trans enough if I keep the dick. And the conclusion I came to is that if I have a cock or not Iā€™m still a woman.

              But yes there are biological differences between myself who is on HRT and myself before hand.

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              Her and I already worked it out.

              Transmedicalism is an issue in the trans community. You can read her response, she didnā€™t call me daft. She just gently explained her position.

              And I responded with the hangups transmedicalism has personally caused me in my own transition. So that she would have a better understanding of where the comment you replied to was coming from.

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      Who assigned them male at birth? What if they were raised like a cisgender female typically would be in our society?

      What makes someone ā€œassigned at birthā€? Is it dressing in masculine clothes, is it having a name like Michael and Billy, is it having a circumcision? These can all be comingled with other variations of child rearing.

      Just because a parent assigns a ā€œgenderā€ at birth doesnā€™t make it someoneā€™s actual identifying ā€œgenderā€. As a young child they have no say in the matter and itā€™s quite frankly wrong to whitewash their childhood history and personal trauma like that.

      Now that youā€™re more informed, I hope moving forward you stop trying to erase peopleā€™s adolescent psychological adversity.

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        Assigned at birth is referring to what the doctor writes on your birth certificate. Itā€™s not complicated. It has nothing to do with gender.

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          If you ever find yourself wondering why thereā€™s people out there that donā€™t speak up about trans hate, just go reread your original reply to me. My comment was nothing close to hateful or bigoted, but youā€™re not gonna tolerate wrong speak on lemmy.

          You clearly could see where I was coming from and where my support is directed. Instead of total indifference to my comment, which would have been the bare minimum amount of attention you could give to it. You decided to take umbrage with me saying ā€œbiologicalā€ instead of what makes you happy and throw out intersex groups that make up a fraction of a percent of the entire population like an uno reverse card.

          Then to cap it off you made sure to declare that Iā€™ve been ā€œproperly educatedā€, so sayeth you. So from here on out, I need to use the right language orā€¦ else?

          Iā€™m not quite sure what your final edict was supposed to imply. That if I donā€™t use the right language my trans friends wonā€™t talk to me anymore? Iā€™ll get kicked out of the gay club?

          Instead of leaving it, you had to make it a point to punch down on someone who isnā€™t as ā€œinformedā€ as you and put me on blast like I just said the N word equivalent for trans persons.

          Seriously, itā€™s great you want to help spread awareness, but damn you took a super hostile and adversarial tone right off the bat.

          Just calling my shot here. I wrote all this out on my phone and it will not be well received despite the fact that thereā€™s members of trans alliance and advocacy groups who disagree with your position and disagree with the use of ā€œASABā€. Thereā€™s people within the community who dislike using the term trans as a catch all.

          Where do you personally draw the line? Are you going to stop saying ASAB now that you know some people donā€™t like it? Are you going to keep saying ā€œtransā€ even though some people feel like it marginalizes the community and feels too informal to discuss complex gender identities?

          Gender Dysphoria Alliance

          The Problem with saying ASAB

          Columbia Law Review

          For whatever reason people online are more interested in being outraged.

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            I didnā€™t take umbrage with your original comment. I just pointed out that itā€™s wrong and you should stop. I was annoyed when you seemed to double down.

            Intersex people are just clear that ā€œbasic biologyā€ is a non-functioning understanding of what biology is. Intersex people couldnā€™t exist if what you learned in high school bio was the end. Itā€™s a clear indication that sex is not just some binary thing. Itā€™s a very complex thing. Even non-intersex people have different developments in the growth due to different hormone levels and other things, and we can even control hormone levels artificially. Itā€™s very complex, and the only useful term is AFAB/AMAB, and then more detailed medical records.

            Then to cap it off you made sure to declare that Iā€™ve been ā€œproperly educatedā€, so sayeth you. So from here on out, I need to use the right language orā€¦ else?

            Yeah, use the more accurate language, or else we know youā€™re choosing not to. Nothings going to happen. Everyone gets to make choices in life. I canā€™t make you do anything, but from one cis-gendered person to another, itā€™s not difficult to be better. Itā€™s just a choice.

            Youā€™re getting really offended by someone just informing you the language you used was wrong. It wasnā€™t even a particularly insulting comment.

            Where do you personally draw the line? Are you going to stop saying ASAB now that you know some people donā€™t like it? Are you going to keep saying ā€œtransā€ even though some people feel like it marginalizes the community and feels too informal to discuss complex gender identities?

            I rarely have a use for either term, so I draw the line where itā€™s useful for others. If youā€™re a doctor, thatā€™s where it matters, and after gender confirmation, your ā€œsexā€ is a lot more complicated. After a while or hormone therapy, youā€™re more akin to your chosen sex than your birth sex. Thatā€™s why the ā€œbiologically male/femaleā€ term isnā€™t useful. Itā€™s assuming their birth sex is their current sex for medical purposes, but itā€™s more complex than that. Sex assigned at birth is useful because it limits it to that period specifically, and your medical records tell the whole story.

            The AEI article you posted seems to ignore this fact. It seems to say your birth sex is the important factor. Itā€™s just one of many. For future development, the one your hormones correspond with is likely more important.

            The CLR article mirrors what Iā€™ve said earlier:

            ā€œBy referring instead to sex assigned at birth, transgender rights advocates convey that ā€œbiological sexā€ is not simple, static, or binary and that gender identity also has biological aspects.ā€

            For whatever reason people online are more interested in being outraged

            I agree. People should be more calm, even when corrected. Being outraged doesnā€™t help. It only acts to cement our mind in preconceived ideas. Changing our minds when provided more information that counters our previous beliefs is something that should be commended, not fled from.

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              Got it.

              I apologize.

              Youā€™re a the most qualified person on the internet for cisgender, trans, and intersex word policing.

              Now that I know and if I donā€™t change, youā€™ll make sure to report it to the cisgender police for trans activities special victims unitā€¦

              Itā€™s interesting you chose the statement ā€œitā€™s not difficult to be better, itā€™s just a choiceā€. You could have started this entire interaction with ā€œhey dude, just a heads up that a lot of transphobes use phrases like ā€˜biological maleā€™ to invalidate trans identitiesā€, but instead you took the opportunity to speak down to me and made sure I was now ā€œeducatedā€ and that I can stop using wrong speak.

              Thank God youā€™re here as an ally to make people question why those of us on this side of the fence canā€™t even get along internally.

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                Youā€™re a the most qualified person on the internet for cisgender, trans, and intersex word policing.

                I definitely am not.

                Now that I know and if I donā€™t change, youā€™ll make sure to report it to the cisgender police for trans activities special victims unitā€¦

                I havenā€™t reported or downvoted you.

                Itā€™s interesting you chose the statement ā€œitā€™s not difficult to be better, itā€™s just a choiceā€. You could have started this entire interaction with ā€œhey dude, just a heads up that a lot of transphobes use phrases like ā€˜biological maleā€™ to invalidate trans identitiesā€, but instead you took the opportunity to speak down to me and made sure I was now ā€œeducatedā€ and that I can stop using wrong speak.

                I donā€™t think I spoke down to you, but you are welcome to your opinion. I tried to inform you.

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                  ā€œI donā€™t think I spoke down to you, but you are welcome to your opinion. I tried to inform you.ā€

                  Really? You seriously can re-read your comment and donā€™t see how shitty it comes across when addressing it to someone who used a word you disagree with unwittingly?

                  ā€œAssigned male at birth is the term you want to use. ā€œBiological maleā€ is a term used by transphobes to spread misinformation.ā€

                  Not informative at all. Itā€™s you telling me what word I want to use, while implying Iā€™m a transphobe attempting to spread misinformation.

                  " Biology is very complex and not your elementary school version of biology. What makes someone ā€œbiologicallyā€ male? Is it having a penis, having testis, having more testosterone than estrogen, having XY chromosomes? These can all be intermixed with other characteristics."

                  Hereā€™s the fun part where you state I have an elementary level understanding of biology.

                  ā€œThe ā€œbasic biologyā€ definition doesnā€™t work in the real world, and the people using it are actively trying to harm trans people or ignorant. Now youā€™re more informed so ignorance isnā€™t an excuse anymore.ā€

                  Hereā€™s the cherry on top where you talk about me not knowing how to discuss complex topics in the real world or that I may be actively trying to harm trans people at worst or ignorant at best. Lastly, in case you know Iā€™m not a transphobe that my ignorance can no longer be an excuse.

                  You seriously couldnā€™t possibly think of any other combination of words to get your point across without making me out to be someone thatā€™s intentionally skirting the line of ignorance and bigotry in an effort to harm trans people?

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        Iā€™m not a trans person, but Iā€™m pretty sure that ā€œassigned X at birthā€ refers to whatever gender is assigned on oneā€™s birth certificate.

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        Man, just reread what was shared with you and take the learning experience. You tried to be cute by making a mad-lib out of it and you sound way worse now than you did two comments up.

        Edit hours later after checking to see if my advice was heeded:

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          Oh no, I didnā€™t heed my trans wisdoms lords advice and theyā€™ve decided to deride someone for a singular word choice to make themselves feel morally superior!

          This will definitely advance the trans acceptance of the common person! Or maybe stay with me here for a moment, not everyone on the internet is as accepting as you are and when they see someone getting slammed for ā€œwrong speakā€ it reinforces their shitty beliefs.

          ā€œIf someone who loves and supports trans people is getting shit on for saying a double plus ungood word by other trans allies, then why would I ever want to be a part of that.ā€

          Iā€™ve heard these conversations verbatim from people I work with who hold actual hatred for trans people and trans acceptance. Once again though youā€™re all living for up votes and that brief instance you get to feel morally superior on the internet and share these snippets in your discord groups. This is clearly such a flippant topic for you that all you could muster up is a meme.

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            If youā€™re taking a few online comments ā€œfrom a perceived groupā€ and labeling the entire movement and ideology of it bad because ā€œthey said mean things to meā€. Well sorry pal, you were just looking for an excuse.

            Try talking to those co-workers and see how nice their word play can be. Should definitely join the people who hold actual hatred than to get over some language critiques so you can properly communicate with a minority group online. You are trying to just communicate right? Just as speaking to a professional or someone without your background you tend to communicate differently to be more effective right?

            I get it, youā€™re old-think and stuck in your ways. ā€œI donā€™t actively harm people, so people shouldnā€™t be harmed by anything I doā€. Itā€™s so much easier to just blame everyone else and continue living in your bubble instead of actually learning new perspectives. People stay locked in their ways everyday, why should you have to be any different?

            If your intention was to sidetrack any conversation from the gun article and only have a debate about trans people, well you did a good job because all of that above is a hot mess I was not interested in after only a few comments.

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              Lol old thinkā€¦ Damn you really think youā€™re cooking with this one.

              Thereā€™s so many broad sweeping assumptions in this comment that it would take an hour to properly address them.

              Iā€™m for trans expression, safety, gender affirming care, and right to live peacefully and safely.

              Iā€™m.for sweeping changes to firearm laws and way more gun control measures to prevent senseless deaths at the hands of firearms. Ideally the US would have laws like Canada or Australia.

              This is exactly my point. This ā€œperceived groupā€ of people online would rather be outraged and morally superior by convincing yourselves that you found a top secret bigot on a mission to detail the thread instead of just looking at the first reply to my comment as what it is, someone being an asshole by talking to down to me about using wrongspeak.

              Also, perceived group? Itā€™s like 20 dorks on lemmy who enjoy talking down to others while jumping to conclusions without knowing who theyā€™re talking to at all. It has nothing to do with the gender identity movement as a whole. I form my opinions on that based on speakiny with my actual friends and family that are LGBTQIA+.

              A simple ā€œhey just a heads up, a lot of people avoid terms like biological male because its commonly used by transphobes to invalidate gender identities onlineā€ would have been clearly understood and accepted.

              However, some people are so terminally online that they assume everything is a secret mission to destroy them from within. It seriously sounds like the reverse of the ā€œGeorge soros is paying libs to post these comments on redditā€ crowd. Iā€™m not saying that there isnā€™t people sea lioning out here and dog whistling, but you are on such high alert that you canā€™t even spot when someone is just being called out for simply being an asshole, because itā€™s on such a controversial and hot topic.