• TheMetaleek@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    He did barely a year of prison… I personally don’t quite think it’s enough for raping a kid, but hey that’s just my opinion

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      3 months ago

      It seems like a lot of criminals who “did their time” really didn’t do much at all.

      Compare that to a lifetime of hurt caused to the victim(s) and their families, and it just doesn’t seem good enough.

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      3 months ago

      Enough for what? Your sense of vengeance? I don’t know, only you can tell… Enough for rehabilitation? I don’t know, but it is possible. Time needed for rehabilitation varies widely. It’s quite possible the year was enough. One thing we do know is that the Netherlands is heavily in favour of rehabilitation over punishment, since rehabilitation actually forwards society

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        I am European and heavily against punitive justice. But I think one year of prison for a crime almost universally considered among the worst is not enough for rehabilitation, and I find this opinion validated by the lack of understanding or even remorse shown by the guy in public statements

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        3 months ago

        This is exactly the point I’m trying to make, but am getting downvoted because I apparently sound like a “child rape apologist”.

        I understand the crime is emotionally charged, but that doesn’t mean anyone convicted of it should just be thrown in the oubliette.

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          I believe people can change and I think it’s important we hold space for people to do so. However, that hinges on the person actually growing, which often starts with showing remorse. I know you implied that this guy has done so, but I haven’t seen any evidence of that.

          Even the quote you posted somewhere else about it being the worst thing he’d done, or something like that? That very much sounds like a, “I’m not sorry I did it, I’m sorry I got caught” kind of statement.

          Asked if van de Velde had ever expressed any remorse to him for rape, Immers [his teammate] said: “No, he doesn’t, he doesn’t explain it.” (source)

          “I have been branded as a sex monster, as a pedophile,” he said. "That I am not — really not.” (source)

          If there’s an apology or some actual statement showing his remorse, I’d love to see it, but I’m skeptical that it exists. This whole controversy he’s had a huge opportunity to step up, apologize, and rebuke his prior actions. Instead, he’s faced it all with silence and a reaction of ‘I don’t want to talk about it.’ That is not the behavior of a person who acknowledges they were in the wrong, imo.

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            Seems like this whole debacle is because he didn’t make a press tour saying to the whole wide world how remorseful he is, but the comittee said that experts determined that he was remorseful though, so we shouldn’t trust the experts now?

            Van de Velde has fully engaged with all requirements and has met all the stringent risk assessment thresholds, checks and due diligence. Experts have stated that there is no risk of recidivism.

            Van de Velde has consistently remained transparent about the case which he refers to as the most significant misstep of his life. He deeply regrets the consequences of his actions for those involved. He has been open about the personal transformation he has undergone as a result. Since his return he has participated in major international events without incident.

            from https://nocnsf.nl/en/nocstarnsf-takes-measures-to-ensure-a-safe-sporting-environment-for-all-olympic-participants

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          that doesn’t mean anyone convicted of it should just be thrown in the oubliette.

          Yes it does. I think having empathy is a good thing and most people deserve it. Not child rapists.

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                  No im pretty sure all child rapists are pedophiles. I do not think the 2 ideas should be separated. You make it sound like you are cool with people being pedophiles as long as they’re not a child rapist. Fucking weird.

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                    Most child rapists are not pathologically attracted to children. It happens because of power imbalances or other factors.

                    You can think what you’d like but pedophelia has official DSM-5 Diagnostic criteria and there’s an entire academic body of literature behind this.

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            Wow im being down voted for being a anti-pedo. Yall are fucking weird. And sick 🤮.

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              No you’re being downvoted for being in favor of barbaric punishments instead of rehabilitation.

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                Having a less cruel mindset is what allows it to go on though. Our justice system is built by predators for predators so victims are already at a disadvantage, and the fact that anyone would want consideration for the rapist only encourages others. The whole idea of being at all lenient on child rapists is crazy to me

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                    My sister was raped as a kid, and as long as i have known pedophiles/child rapist are the worst of the worst. There is no rehabilitation for that. There should be no opps i didnt mean to go to another country and get a 12 year old drunk and rape her 3 times, then appear to the world as the best people can provide. Its just sickienng to try and normalize or be at all lenient toward such vile acts.

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          Your pretentious pseudo-enlightened bullshit pisses me of. No, not everyone here is out for vengeance. But there’s a middle ground between capital punishment and letting a child rapist go after only 13 months without them expressing remorse plus letting them represent their country at the Olympics. Travelling to another country to convince a 12 year old to have unprotected sex three times in two days, leading them to self-harm including an overdose is not “fornication”, it’s rape. This is not rehabilitation but a blatant failure of the Dutch justice system and society.

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      I agree, it seems like a small amount on the face of it.

      But at the same time, I’m more inclined to trust the judgement of the prison system (at least in The Netherlands) as to whether he is ready to return to society.

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        It’s not the prison system of the Netherlands that you should be considering, It’s the legitimacy of the politicians that decided to release him. Clearly it was a political move do you believe that somebody else in his position would have been released so early?

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          Nice slogan, but back in reality, there’s a phenomenon documented in psychology literature called Projection. It’s usually those who rabidly accuse others and calling for harsh punishments that are guilty of those same behaviours they are condemning.

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          It is possible and encouraged to try and have empathy for even the worst of people.

          Am I an islamic terrorist because I think the CIA shouldn’t torture the 9/11 planners for two decades?

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            Torture isn’t imprisonment though. One of them is an established method of punishment for actual criminals and the other one is just pointless.

            Also the US has the death penalty so you know I suppose it’s proportionate by their standards.

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      While I agree this seems extremely small. The netherlands is not the US. The specifics of court cases are not made public. We have no idea about them. It might be a very ambiguous case that barely fit the definition of rape or whatever.

      Not trying to defend rape or rapists, but we may need more context before we can judge the length of a sentence.

      Edit: I just read a less opinionated in depth article on him, and from the details I see, man he fucked up bad, in my opinion he deserved more than 13 months. He got sentenced to 4 years at first but that got cut short.