is reaction post to dis one which made me… vrri uncomf.

its hard to remain positive in these times. we dun need to share mor negativity. if anythin, positivity is whad we need most <3

aimin for the stars isn a bad thing. its encouraging to kno - thad seemingli magic things rlli cn happn in our not-so-magic world.

  • if u havnt found ur special someone - u still cn.
  • if u havnt found a reasonabl job til now - u still cn.
  • if u havnt found a gud hobby - u still cn.

no amount of “failure” (which is rlli jus a learnin opportunity) makes u less likely to suceed.
jus lik how rolling a 1 four times 🎲 in a row doesn influence the next role, infact, the chances havnt changed at all.

dun get demotivated by peeps sharin evil words. they dun kno u. they hav no idea who u r besides the smol amount of data they cn see on-screen.

imagine u readin ur own post by another user who u dun kno.
if it sounds evil, or in bad faith - mayb consider rewriting it.

  • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
    6·
    12 hours ago

    Not sure how you get this from erotador’s post. It was more about how people have fantasies that don’t take into account the autonomy of others, just assuming x type of person would automatically be them. There aren’t any real immortal beings, but there are social groups that get fetishized based on their identity. It’s not being into a type of person that’s the problem, but ignoring that the person themselves need to choose you.

    All this said, I do love your post! Things are rarely ever truly hopeless, so we might as well keep fighting to spite the forces that say we should die.

    • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      4·
      11 hours ago

      yis. i get it. bt also - the post says specificlli “u dun pull any women ur age” which lik - see - thads lik - sad.

      yis, i get it, obvobv sexualizing peep-groups is nt cool- obvobv

      n also obv a relationship has to be built on the double-sided willingness… obvobv aswell.

      kinda my point was: why say a sad thing to all the peeps while its actulli jus directed at a vrri smol subset of peeps… also swearing…

      when i see posts which r intentionally made to mek peeps uncomf or sad… thad doesn spark joy to me n i also get sad.

      also, i feel sayin someone wans a certain type of fantasy-gf isn… thad far fetched?.. lik - i feel ive seen phrase “i wan catgrl gf” plenty times around here, evn by reasonabl peeps.

      alsualsualsu - while i kno its nt gatekeepin - the fact thad its erotador… sharin a thing bout u nevr gettin the dream gf of ur life becuz u currntli cnt evn get real ones -… well see… thads nt a fair… thing, thads like throwing stones from inside a brick-house towards peeps inside glass-houses…

      to me - thads lik havin a job n goin “holi shid - stop talkin bout wantin to be rich! u cnt evn get a normal job! how do u think u could evr get rich?” bt obv its even worse becuz its about human connection, n not capitalism.

      im prolli over-sensitized bout dis stff cuz i dun have any peeps my age around for a year-… thad lik… was and is rlli bad. lik jus-genuinely - no peeps. period. only elderly teacher cit-hets, usually men. so yis. thads prolli why im so upset.

      am i overteactin? yis, obv i am. i do feel thad i have… at least som amount of point tho…

    • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      14·
      17 hours ago

      thanksies! <3

      im - im onli positiv online mostli - bt im happi if i cn share stff which meks peeps comf ~ ~ or at least - a bit mor comf-

      also heyyyyyy its u with the pfp which i keep comin back to becuz its so relatabl-

      thank u for bein here ~ <3 (n alsuu thank u for callin me kind soul… thads vrri nice if u aswell)

      • BlahajByte@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        5·
        17 hours ago

        Nooooooo Thank you for being here!! You bring way more here than i do. You are cute and kind spreading good vibes. I just kinda exist

  • stray@pawb.socialEnglish
    1·
    9 hours ago

    I took that other post as a riff on the kinds of people who put unrealistic and shallow demands on an idealized partner while offering little to nothing in the way of good partnership material themselves.

  • Cassa@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    15 hours ago

    Hey Smorty, is cute post!

    But the post you’re referring to is really not saying that you won’t suceed in things - more that some things are unattainable or out of aligment.

    At least in my perspective - not aiming for something impossible might be uncomfortable and scary at first - but it’ll save far more unhappiness in the future. Like how a walk in the park or forest can be exhausting, dirty and kinda scary - it’ll still show you far more than just another internet post could ❤️

    Hope this makes sense 😅

  • IngeniousRocks (They/She) @lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    3·
    12 hours ago

    Thank you smorty!

    I recently enrolled in school again, its been nearly a decade since I last tried. I’m trying to keep reminding myself I’m not the same person who flunked out before, I’ve grown and become more responsible.

    Your post was a good reminder of that for me today. Regardless of our pasts, the future is still up to us to make. Just because I failed before doesn’t mean I will again.

    Much love Smorty, stay wholesome 🥰

    Edit: I misspelled stuff, autocorrupt, YaKnow?