I opted out of the ability to have kids and am in a long term relationship with no intent to marry, unless a legal reason suddenly appears. I’m in my late 30’s and have I do have many friends who have gone down this route, some are more mature, successful, and/or happy than I am and some are not.

I’m a big advocate of those things not being a thoughtless choice, but something that a person takes a long time to think about before they try for either one. I’ve met way too many people who either, while they love their kid(s), don’t like how their life turned out because of them or are miserable in their marriages and will likely get a divorce.

People are still getting married and having kids?

Marriage and children are not the ultimate marker for success, happiness, or maturity.

Please remember that.

Children can be insanely depressing.

Married people and parents also shit post and are depressed and have issues.

Life is not a race, nor a sequence of specific milestones everyone has to achieve. Do whatever the fuck you want for yourself in life.

That’s of course a bit difficult if these things are exactly what you want. However, go get therapy, carve something nice for you out of life and make yourself comfortable. Don’t compare yourself to people who have lived a mentally healthy life. It’s like comparing yourself to people who have healthy legs while yours are broken. They haven’t walked the same path you are walking. Maybe they wouldn’t even survive for so long if they were in your shoes. So forgive yourself and be proud that you are still here despite the shit raining down on you everyday. That’s a lot of strength you’re showing.

Yada yada yada, I know easier said than done. Ironic, coming from someone who has similar problems. But therapy has indeed helped to make things a bit better. Still working on it. There is hope. You can do it too.

(And still continue to shitpost. ;) )

Your efforts are appreciated

Its OK, champ. We appreciate you.

Not wasting time

The meaning of life is to enjoy it.

You do you fam, and keep doing it

Hah. I live alone, no kids, no house, no car. And I am usually fine with that.

I live in a tower in the downtown of a big city and have a very nice view. I share a pool, a terrasse and gym on the roof. No need to maintain the pool, the concierge does that. No driveway to plow in winter, no grass to cut in summer. No house maintenance.

I have free time and disposable income. I can travel anywhere I want, pretty much when I want it. I’m on my second trip in the Carribean since the beginning of the year.

In summer I take multiple days to cycle for hundreds of kilometres to go camping/hiking in national parks and explore the great bike network of my region. I live on an island, pull my kayak with my bike and explore the waters around whenever I feel like it.

Seeing my friends with kids not being able to get a free weekend once every few months, I don’t mind how things have turned out for me.

Trust me they are no happier than you

🫡 keep up the good work, soldier

I’m not even at the race track. I’m on a country road in the middle of nowhere and I’m perfectly happy about it.